Communication is extremely important in any relationship. It determines whether your relationship lives or dies.
Good communication in a relationship can make those endless arguments, silly disagreements and nights full of tears disappear.
It really is as simple as it sounds.
But it's not a one-way street, both partners need to want to communicate in order for the relationship to work.
It can be as simple as starting off with talks about each other's day.
What if your partner doesn't have time in their day to have that conversation?
What if your partner has to go to sleep when they get home in order to wake up for work the next morning?
Well, there are two possible answers but the choice is dependent upon you.
- Break up - because your partner obviously isn't making time for you and as YOUR PARTNER he or she should see you as a priority, not an option.
- Work it out- be understanding of your partner's rigorous schedule. Create respectable distance and let your partner miss you
Trust is what makes us love again. Without trust, you can drive your partner away or drive yourself insane.
If you can't trust your partner you'll always have your guard up, be suspicious of your partner, not fully enjoying your relationship and stress yourself out.
What if your partner has already betrayed your trust? (but you BOTH want the relationship to continue- with the promise it will never happen again.)
What if in your previous relationship your partner betrayed your trust and in return, you have a hard time trusting your current partner?
It takes time and patience, but it is possible to overcome. This is when communication becomes crucial.
As the partner that betrayed the other, you must be open and effectively communicate to gain the other person's trust back.
Betraying someone's trust cannot be fixed with flowers and chocolate. It takes time, love, patience and good communication.
As far as past relationships interfering with current relationships, it must be let go. Caring old baggage into a new relationship is a red flag, to begin with.
To have your partner "fix what someone in the past has broken" is an invalid argument.
Before getting into a new relationship give yourself time to repair and gain your strength back. It's okay to let go and move on.
It can very difficult, but it is possible.
Last but not least...
LOVE is what makes the world go round. Love is such a beautiful thing. Love is selfless but also includes sacrifices.
The most important person to love when in a relationship is YOURSELF. Without self-love, you may be dependent on your partner to fill that void that only you can fix.
Love each other, but most importantly love yourself.
When saying "I love you" it should be without force or hesitation. You need to really mean it because those words are powerful. It is not okay to lead people on.
If you cannot answer the question "why I love my partner" then it's time reevaluate.
