19 Things I Have Learned In 19 Years

19 Things I Have Learned In 19 Years

Live gives you lessons.

As I am coming upon my last year as a teenager (yikes I'm old) I have found myself reflecting on my life. There are many things that I have been taught, by friends and family, as well as some lessons that have come out of the many mistakes that I have made. Here are the 19 things that I have learned in 19 years:

1. If you have to choose between being respected or liked, chose respect.

At the end of the day, you will be a much happier and better person if you stick to your values and beliefs rather than just giving into other peoples wants in order to have them like you.

2. Don't say you're sorry unless it is actually your fault.

I have always been the one to just immediately respond with an "I'm sorry" if anything is going wrong. But what I have realized is that I have no need to say I'm sorry if something that has happened is going wrong and I had nothing to do with it.

3. It is okay to ask for help.

Honestly, I'm still working on this one, but I have really started to realize that asking for help is very important especially since starting college this year. I have had to get help in my classes as well as the occasional call to mom or dad because sometimes adulating can be confusing.

4. Don't be afraid to find a new group of friends.

At the age of 16, I decided that I did not like the person I had become around the friends I had and took a big step away from them. For a while, it was hard because I felt quite lonely, but I eventually found friends who, like me, were motivated students and they are still my best friends to this day.

5. Never settle.

It is okay to move on and not just settle for the situation you are in. Whether that be in school or a relationship, never be worried to go out and look for bigger and better things.

6. Don't let your friends dictate your opinions of something or someone.

Do your own research and develop your own opinions, it will make you a better person in the long run.

7. You'll never have more time than you do right now.

I know that at times you feel like there is no way your life could get busier, but let's be honest, as you get older your free time diminishes. Make sure you schedule out time to just relax and hang out with your friends.

8. If something is your fault, own up to it.

It might be scary owning up to a mistake, but mistakes are the best way to learn and grow as a person.

9. Give back whenever possible.

Nothing will make you appreciate your life more than giving back to your community or to a cause that is important to you.

10. Don't jump to conclusions.

I do this a lot and it is a major thing that I am working on. When hearing about something it is important to step back and look at the situation from all angles because you never know what you could be missing.

11. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.

This is simple, just be kind because you don't know what someone else is going through.

12. If you can't afford to pay cash, you can't afford it.

Saving is important, so is knowing what you can afford and what you can't. This life lesson will surely help once you have to start making the bigger purchases in life such as a car and a house.

13. You don't always have to have the last word.

My mom would disagree with the fact that I have learned this lesson at times. However, over the past year, I have definitely learned that sometimes it is best just to end an argument before things get out of control.

14. Stepping out of your comfort zone is the best thing.

I have made some of my best friends and have had some of the most amazing experiences in my life just by taking a chance and stepping out of my comfort zone.

15. Put your phone on Do Not Disturb or just turn it off.

I know this seems like a foreign concept to most millennials but honestly, I am never as relaxed as I am when my phone is not constantly going off.

16. Reading is the best pastime.

The best way to become more knowledgeable is to read, plus it's a much cheaper way to travel.

17. Keep in touch with your core group of friends.

This is especially important when coming to college or moving away from your hometown. It is so important to keep in contact with your friends from back home because, trust me, they help with the homesickness.

18. Winning isn't always the best thing.

You learn the most not from your wins but from your losses.

19. Dedication is important.

Put your heart mind and soul into something and it will surely pay off in the long run.

Sometimes I don't always follow my own advice and forget some of these lessons that I have learned. However, over the next coming year I am striving to be a better person and go out of my teens with a bang!

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23 Actual Quotes From Nursing Students

Behind the scenes at clinicals.

Many nursing students actively complain about the tortures of nursing school, but those on the outside may not know how stressful it is. Here are 23 fun quotes from actual nursing students that can give you an idea of what nursing school is really like:

1. "If I died and went to hell, it would take me a week to realize that I wasn't in nursing school anymore."

2. "My GPA is higher than the number of hours I sleep at night."

3. "Is it weird that I love nursing school, but it also makes me want to cry at the same time?"

4. "Can't I just learn everything I need to know from watching Grey's Anatomy?"

5. "I laid my practice catheter on my bed to scare away my roommate's boyfriend."

6. "My clinical badge picture actually makes me look like I am a serial killer."

7. "We are literally a cult, guys. We wear the same things and in order to be a nursing student, you have to pass certain tests that involve manipulating body parts and such."

8. "We only worked 12 hours on our 12-hour shift! This is a miracle."

9. "Wouldn't that be cool if we initiated IV bags full of Starbucks coffee into each other's bloodstreams?"

10. "Are you a pulmonary embolism? Because you make me breathless."

11. "I am never getting married because I stopped talking to boys when I entered nursing school."

12. "Everyone else gets to go out, go to the bars, go on dates, work out, go to the lake, but I am just sitting here trying to pass nursing school."

13. *Holds up blank piece of paper* "This is a picture of my current social life."

14. "I just want it to be the weekend so I can have free time to work on homework."

15. "For our tests, all the answers are correct. You just have to pick the BEST answer."

16. "All I want for my birthday is a lavender stethoscope with my name engraved on the bell."

17. "On a pain scale from 1-10, I would say that nursing school is a solid 11."

18. "Do these scrubs make me look fat?"

18. "I love the pockets on our scrubs! You can literally hold anything and everything. Maybe even a puppy so that you can take it out when you start to feel sad."

19. "It is really sad how I refer to life outside of nursing school as 'real life.'"

20. "Finals week is literally every week in nursing school. We haven't gone a week without a major test this entire semester."

21. "People only respect me when I am wearing scrubs."

22. "I have my friend groups clumped into two different groups: sorority friends and nursing friends."

23. "How is school going? Yeah, nursing school sucks, but it is so worth it."

Although a lot of these quotes seem to be negative, you need to remember that it is easier to complain about the bad than it is to praise about the good. Nursing school is pretty time-consuming, as well as mentally and physically exhausting, but I would not trade it for any other major. I am blessed to call myself a nursing student, and my nursing friends have turned into one of the biggest support systems that I have ever encountered.

Oh, and all these quotes are actually quotes from me, ha.

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10 Things I Learned When My Best Friend Got Pregnant In High School

In this world where you can be anything: be a friend (and be a good one).

Life: full of amazing, unforeseen circumstances. How you roll with the punches only reveals your strength.
True friends are like diamonds: bright, beautiful, valuable, and always in style." -Nicole Richie

I remember when I first heard the big news. I didn't want to believe it. My heart dropped. I was worried for you. What would happen? How would you get through this? Nothing we knew would ever be the same. Our world was about to change forever. I recalled the verse Isaiah 41:10, "Do not be afraid, for I am with you." I knew God was with you and would always be. I knew God needed me to be here for you, no matter what.

Turns out, you had this all in the bag. You handled everything with grace and dignity. You were strong even on your hardest days. You were overwhelmed with faith and you inspired me with your perseverance through the hardest times. I could not be more proud of who you became because of the cards you were dealt.

To Meaghan: I love you. I'm always here, no matter where. Hudson is so lucky to have you.

Here's what I learned from you and your sweet baby boy:

1. Contrary to popular belief, it is NOT the end of the world

Start making plans for the future. Pick out clothes, decorations, and toys. Help with all the madness and preparation. She would do the same for you. Plus, 9 p.m. runs to Toys-R-Us just to buy the baby some socks (because you do not know the gender yet) is always a good idea. You have to focus on the big picture. Life doesn't stop even when you want to.

2. No matter how much you want to freak out, remain calm

Getting unexpected news is never easy to hear. If needed, cry. Cry until you cannot anymore. Then, get up and be strong, she needs you. Be flexible (You want to come over to hang out? Right now? No, I'm not in the middle of ten thousand things, come on over). Be available (yes, even for her 3 a.m. insomnia calls just to see "what's up?") "Meaghan, why are you even awake right now?"

3. Radiate positivity. Always. 

This is an emotional time. The LAST thing she needs is someone bringing her down. "No, honey, you're glowing!" "You do not look fat in that bikini!!" "You are rocking that baby bump!" "Oh, that's your the third day in a row you're eating a Sonic burger for lunch? You go girl!"

4. Be ready for all the times: happy, confusing, stressful, sad, (but mostly) exciting

Mixed emotions are so hard, but look for the silver lining. With your support, she will be strong.

"Who knew picking out the brand of diapers to buy was so stressful?"

5. This world is a scary place. You never want to be all alone, so don't be. 

Like the song says, we, really do, all need someone to lean on. Just being there for someone goes a long way. "Meaghan what the heck are you doing in MY bed? How long have you been here?"

6. Lean on God. His plan is greater than we could ever imagine. 

When you don't know where to go, or who to turn to, pray! Pray for the burdens you feel. Pray for the future. Pray for patience. Pray for the ability to not grow weary. Pray for a heart of compassion. Pray. Pray. Pray.

7. Something we never knew we needed. 

Some of the best things in life are things we never knew we needed. Who knows where we would be without this sweet face?

"Hudson say Lib. Libby. L-- Come ON!" "CAT!" "Okay, that works too."

8. "Mother knows best"...is accurate, whether you believe it or not

Turns out, seventeen-year-olds don't know how to plan baby showers. Our moms have been there, done that. They want to be involved just as much as we do, so let them! Listen to their guidance. After all, they're professionals.

9. There will *almost always* be a "better way" of doing something...but, be a cheerleader, not a critic 

This is something many people struggle with in general, but it is not your DNA, it is not your place to be a critic. Let her raise her own baby. You are there to be a friend, not a mentor. ****Unless she's about to name the baby something absolutely terrible -- for the love of that baby, don't let her name that kid something everyone hates.

10.  At the end of the day, it's not what you have or what you know; rather, it is all about who you love and those who love you

Life has adapted, but for the better. We grew up, learned, and became stronger. All the while, we stayed friends every step of the way. We still have the same fun and most definitely, the same laughs.

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