19 Things I Have Learned In 19 Years

19 Things I Have Learned In 19 Years

Live gives you lessons.

As I am coming upon my last year as a teenager (yikes I'm old) I have found myself reflecting on my life. There are many things that I have been taught, by friends and family, as well as some lessons that have come out of the many mistakes that I have made. Here are the 19 things that I have learned in 19 years:

1. If you have to choose between being respected or liked, chose respect.

At the end of the day, you will be a much happier and better person if you stick to your values and beliefs rather than just giving into other peoples wants in order to have them like you.

2. Don't say you're sorry unless it is actually your fault.

I have always been the one to just immediately respond with an "I'm sorry" if anything is going wrong. But what I have realized is that I have no need to say I'm sorry if something that has happened is going wrong and I had nothing to do with it.

3. It is okay to ask for help.

Honestly, I'm still working on this one, but I have really started to realize that asking for help is very important especially since starting college this year. I have had to get help in my classes as well as the occasional call to mom or dad because sometimes adulating can be confusing.

4. Don't be afraid to find a new group of friends.

At the age of 16, I decided that I did not like the person I had become around the friends I had and took a big step away from them. For a while, it was hard because I felt quite lonely, but I eventually found friends who, like me, were motivated students and they are still my best friends to this day.

5. Never settle.

It is okay to move on and not just settle for the situation you are in. Whether that be in school or a relationship, never be worried to go out and look for bigger and better things.

6. Don't let your friends dictate your opinions of something or someone.

Do your own research and develop your own opinions, it will make you a better person in the long run.

7. You'll never have more time than you do right now.

I know that at times you feel like there is no way your life could get busier, but let's be honest, as you get older your free time diminishes. Make sure you schedule out time to just relax and hang out with your friends.

8. If something is your fault, own up to it.

It might be scary owning up to a mistake, but mistakes are the best way to learn and grow as a person.

9. Give back whenever possible.

Nothing will make you appreciate your life more than giving back to your community or to a cause that is important to you.

10. Don't jump to conclusions.

I do this a lot and it is a major thing that I am working on. When hearing about something it is important to step back and look at the situation from all angles because you never know what you could be missing.

11. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.

This is simple, just be kind because you don't know what someone else is going through.

12. If you can't afford to pay cash, you can't afford it.

Saving is important, so is knowing what you can afford and what you can't. This life lesson will surely help once you have to start making the bigger purchases in life such as a car and a house.

13. You don't always have to have the last word.

My mom would disagree with the fact that I have learned this lesson at times. However, over the past year, I have definitely learned that sometimes it is best just to end an argument before things get out of control.

14. Stepping out of your comfort zone is the best thing.

I have made some of my best friends and have had some of the most amazing experiences in my life just by taking a chance and stepping out of my comfort zone.

15. Put your phone on Do Not Disturb or just turn it off.

I know this seems like a foreign concept to most millennials but honestly, I am never as relaxed as I am when my phone is not constantly going off.

16. Reading is the best pastime.

The best way to become more knowledgeable is to read, plus it's a much cheaper way to travel.

17. Keep in touch with your core group of friends.

This is especially important when coming to college or moving away from your hometown. It is so important to keep in contact with your friends from back home because, trust me, they help with the homesickness.

18. Winning isn't always the best thing.

You learn the most not from your wins but from your losses.

19. Dedication is important.

Put your heart mind and soul into something and it will surely pay off in the long run.

Sometimes I don't always follow my own advice and forget some of these lessons that I have learned. However, over the next coming year I am striving to be a better person and go out of my teens with a bang!

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8 Things Your RA Wants You to Know


Moving into a dorm your first year of college can be very intimidating. You've seen the movies, you've talked to your older friends, but you're still a little nervous. We all were a little nervous moving in our first year, anyone who says otherwise is lying. The movies aren't entirely accurate, especially when it comes to the RAs. Here's a list to help guide you a little when moving into a residence hall your freshman year, and here's exactly what to expect from your RA.

These are seriously helpful hints from a previous RA, if you know these things going in your freshman year in the dorms will be a breeze when it comes to RAs. Read the list and dominate your freshman year, because these are the things your RA wish you knew.

1. We are friendly, therefore we love friendly people.

Don't even pretend like you're too cool for your RA because that will either make them completely resent you or try way too hard to get you to open up. I can tell you right now that those are two things you definitely don't want. Don't be afraid to say hi or go out of your way to introduce yourself, we like that.

2. Don't kiss up.

No one likes a kiss up, not even your RA. If you try kissing up chances are we are just going to be slightly annoyed and slightly suspicious of you for the rest of the year.

3. Be smart.

Here's the catch to RAs: they are there to make sure you follow all the rules of the hall. We know you're going to go out and do things you're probably not old enough to do, but be smart about it. Don't drink in the halls, especially if you're not even legal to drink. Don't go out and get wasted only to come back and trash the halls. You can go out and do your own thing, and as long as you don't cause any problems throughout the hall then you won't get in any trouble.

4. We want you to come to events.

We put on these events specifically for you, so when you don't come it sucks for us. Don't be afraid to just stop by for the food, because we will honestly be happy to see you.

5. We aren't stupid.

We know when you're trying to get on our good side so we won't get you in trouble, we know when you're drunk, we know when you're doing things you shouldn't be doing. We are simply RAs, we aren't stupid.

6. We are students too.

We are there to help you adjust to college, it's literally our job. So don't be afraid to reach out, we're students too, we know what the college transition is like and we are there to help you.

7. Don't you dare turn to passive-aggression.

Being passive aggressive will solve exactly zero of your problems. Don't be passive aggressive to your roommate, to your neighbor, or even to the people that live down the hall.

8. We aren't there to spite you.

We are just doing our job, we aren't trying to annoy you or trying to get you in trouble. So don't be upset when we bust you for drinking in the dorms because you're not allowed, not of age, and it's our job. In the end, it's not our fault it's yours.

These helpful tips will make your time in college just a little easier. College can be hard and having troubles where you live isn't something that you want. So know what your RA wants you to know, and dorm life will be a breeze.

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5 Easy Ways To Decorate Your Dorm Room

1. Pillows. Always pillows!


It's the end of August, which means it's almost move-in day for most colleges. My freshman year, I remember not wanting to spend a lot of time decorating my room, but I also wanted it to look nice. Here are five ways I managed to make my room look amazing in a quick and easy way!

1. Pillows


One thing that really made my dorm room feel put together was simply some throw pillows for my bed. It made my room feel way more organized, and it gave me a routine of setting them up every morning. I even got a few compliments on them!

2. Fairy lights


My roommates and suitemates hung up fairy lights around our room and common room, and it was one of my favorite decorations in the room. They're really pretty, and you can buy them in all different colors to match the theme of your room.

3. Wall tapestry


A lot of people hang up wall tapestries to decorate their rooms, and they're a great way to quickly make your room look really nice. Just be careful not to violate any fire codes!

4. Pictures of your friends and family


Putting up pictures of family and friends from high school is another great way to spruce up your dorm room, especially if it's your first year! If you ever get homesick, you'll have photos from home right next to you all the time. Also, you can add new pictures as you make new memories at college.

5. White board


White boards are also fun to have, because you and your roommates can write or draw whatever you want on them. You can also put one on your desk and use it to write reminders and test dates, so you won't forget!

Now, get decorating and have an amazing year!

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