There is no "one" in life. The truth is, there are several, hundreds, thousands even, of people out there you could fall madly in love with. Yet we confine ourselves to the mad search for this "one" we're convinced is our true love.
Now don't get me wrong- I believe in true love. I believe in having my own person that feels meant for me. Someone who makes me feel overwhelmed by how a person could fit me so effortlessly. But that doesn't necessarily mean he or she is the only one created for me to love.
I mean, think about it. We fall in love all the time. With the infamous first love, the one that introduced us to the hells of heartbreak. Then, there was the person that somehow put us back together when we thought we could never love again. And then, there's the person that swoops us off our feet when we least expect it, with an all-consuming sort of love, leaving us breathless and alive and questioning every other kind of love we'd ever experienced.
I know what you're thinking. If there is more than one person meant for me, then how come I'm perfectly happy in my relationship? Why haven't I noticed all these other "ones" around me?
Because when we're happy, we commit. And when we commit, we remain (hopefully) faithful to the person we've agreed to be exclusive with. We close our minds to the thought of anyone else. As we should.
But what happens when you break up? You move on and you fall in love with someone else. Maybe we just fall in and out of love until we find the best fit in a partner, but don't we think everyone we've committed to is the best fit when we're falling in love with them?
This article is not meant to discourage you or discredit the happy relationship you are in. In fact, it's quite the opposite. This article is about hope. Hope in knowing that even though you may be with someone who fits you perfectly, life happens and it can tear people apart in ways you never saw coming. But after the coming apart is over, someone else can come along and fill those empty spaces your "one" left you with.
