"What's your favorite color?" They ask on your casual walk one sunny afternoon. You turn your eyes towards the ground, see a striated lime green leaf that's fallen, a dark green car just up ahead, and a giant bright green palm tree stuck in a neighbor's yard. "Oh that's easy, it's green." Then they pop the question, "Oh okay, so who the hell are you?"

Okay, in reality, that question is probably very rarely asked unless you're in a dark situation surrounded by strange people doing even stranger things. Anyways, my point is what do our words say about who we are as a person; a sister, brother, friend, lover, parent, Christian? How can somebody begin to understand who we are, if we are lying to them, and ourselves? (Even over the simplest of questions— like thinking about what your favorite color is — instead of finding the nearest commonality to latch onto).

In Anatomy and Physiology, there is a rule describes the variety of unique shapes of organs being directly linked to their different functions. Likewise, for humans, our personalities and individual characteristics are what create our niche, and make us who we are. If we are not being honest with ourselves, and figuring out what our "shape" is, what's the purpose in continuing throughout life blinded? If a person is going to question our own abilities and not establish a self-trust to begin with, how will anyone demonstrate the qualities acceptable enough to be in a loving relationship with them? If you can't trust in the strengths and weaknesses that make you, you to begin with, then how can you expect to be heard and respected by your words and actions (especially if they are lies)?

Deceit is the epitome of disgust. This word makes my skin crawl, blood boil, and fists clench with a heart beat of their own. Who would ever think this would be okay to use on somebody, in any situation? What has the word trust evolved to be? (If there is any left at all). Where is love, respect, compassion and loyalty allowed to come into a relationship when both of the partners hardly know anything about the other besides the meaningless gibberish that's been repeated over the past five years?

This is not an article where you read until the end and find out this amazing new technique to overcome the problem I mentioned at the beginning. It's real questions, real concerns, real experiences. Take them into consideration, then ask yourself what even is my favorite color and hopefully, you can begin to spark positive change in the exponential collapse of trust within relationships, and ourselves.