Being a girl comes with a lot of responsibilities.

Whether it’s looking good every day to class to taking off your clothes for every boy who treated you nice. In college, boys treat us like toys. I’m not saying that every single boy in the college world treats girls like an object, but the majority of boys do. If boys are nice to us for night or they hang out with once sober once, then we automatically “owe” the sex.

For some girls, girl who fall for this little trick that these boys play, give them sex which only positively reinforces them. Then a couple days later, after you give them exactly what they wanted, they never talk to you again. Or if you happen to be one of the girls who doesn’t give them sex, they still won’t talk to you again.

I ask myself constantly, “How is this okay? How does one allow themselves to be treated like that? How does one treat someone else like that?” Since coming to college, this has been one of the hardest things for me to wrap my head around. It has come down to a straight cycle. Boy meets girl. Boy treats girl nice once. Boy expects sex. Girl gives boy sex. Boy never talks to girl again.

This terrible cycle is repeated constantly. Every week. Every month. Every year.

This cycle, the cycle that has girls broken-hearted and left feeling useless, happens to girls all the time. Coming from personal experience, when a boy treats you nice it’s so “different” than the norm these days. Most boys are rude and treat girls poorly, so when a boy compliments you and focuses on you for a night, you feel good. Every girl wants to feel like they’re wanted by someone and they’d give up practically anything to feel secure. We all just want to be the “different” girl.

The one that he tells his friends about. The one that makes him give up being a man whore. We all want to be that special girl. It's hard because girls keep getting fucked over because they believe that “maybe this time” it will be different. And because of this, any girl with a heart full of hope, will fall head over heels for a dumb boy that has been playing the same game with every girl that he has come into contact with.