These days people fuss about being single. Some love being single while there are some who dread the idea of it. And others, well they're just living life. Me on the other hand, well, I'm back and forth on it. There are days I wish I had someone to call mine while other days I don't think twice about being single and believe living the "single life" is the best thing ever.
Guess you can say I have mixed emotions about it. Everyone has their own opinions, that's what makes us human. But when it really comes down to it the questions some people may ask themselves will be "Do I really like being single?" and "Do I really want to be in a relationship right now?" I have asked myself these questions both as a single lady and as one-half in a relationship. To be honest my feelings change on it all the time. I guess I'm stuck between being single and making myself happy and having someone there to share my happiness with.
There's nothing wrong with being single. There are days it feels amazing and I wouldn't want to change a thing. However, there's nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationship. There are pros and cons to the single life.
The Bad
1. Seeing couples in public.
When I am at the mall or going out to eat somewhere, I always see couples. This creates a constant reminder that I'm not in a relationship and therefore can't take part in certain things. Not going to lie, I wish I had that special someone to treat me to lunch and just hang out with.
2. Valentine's Day & Anniversaries
Seeing your friends getting cute gifts for Valentine's day or even on an anniversary is yet another reminder that I won't be receiving anything. This doesn't mean I am not happy for my friends and their relationships because I am. It's just that sometimes I want a huge teddy bear and a box of chocolate too.
3. When you can't hang out with your friend because it's their date night.
My date nights consist of Netflix and a box of Oreos. Do I have to say anymore?
The Good
1. Pizza to yourself.
You don't have to share food with anyone. That whole pizza you got... yup you can eat that whole thing!!
2. Treat yourself to a gift.
It's Valentine's Day? Well go out there and buy yourself a little something. You won't get something you don't like because you picked it out for yourself!
3. You make your happiness.
You choose how you spend your day and what makes you happy. You have the time to be happy. You don't have to worry about making anyone else happy, just yourself.
4. You are able to find yourself.
Being single gives you time to figure out who you are as a person and how you can learn to love yourself. And that is key to finding love. You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you.
Being single has its ups and downs. For right now I am trying to look at the bright side of things. We all have our reasons for being single and our reasons for being in a relationship. No one wants to be alone. We just need to be patient. Our time will come when we find that person. Everyone's timing is different. We just need to focus on right now. Be happy right now. And then you'll find that person to share your happiness with.
