Your personality is one of the main things that either brings in attention from people or it simply pushes them away. You tend to realize what your personality is like and then surround yourself with people that fall in your category.
So what if you don't really fall into either the introvert or extrovert categories? What if on the outside you appear to be an extrovert, while in the inside you would really just like to keep to yourself and silently observe the people around you making loud noises and grabbing attention. Possibly you enjoy being an extrovert half the time, and the other half you feel worn out from being social and around people.
Welcome to the world of being an outgoing introvert, a magical place where the people hold qualities of both an extrovert and introvert.
1. We don't like small talk.
We don't have problems conversing with people; it's more of when we have conversations, we'd rather have actual real talk rather than small talk. Talk to us about politics, the world, what's actually new and going on in your life and we'll have a great conversation. Text us things of the two word nature and chances are you won't get a response. Even in person, we avoid having awkward conversations that have no real point to the conversation. That's small talk, and we just avoid it because there's no need for it in our book. Another reason why we probably hate first dates.
2. We can be the life of the party or sit back and watch.
Put us in a room full of our closest friends and we'll be there ready to ramp it up with conversation and jokes. Put us in a room full of strangers, and it's more likely that we'll find a spot on the side and people watch. More times than not, we are having a great time, because, let's be real, people watching is always a great time. Other times, we could be known by everybody. It's a hit or miss situation.
3. Speaking of large social situations, we're ready to be alone after one.
Give us about two to three hours at a party chatting it up and we're done. We're ready to go home, lock the door, and regroup by ourselves. We could even be counting down until we get to go home and be alone all while being out and still engaging in conversation, you'd never even know. Along with the fact we might just skip the whole social event all together. The constant debate inside our head of "I should go out this weekend, but I could just stay in and do something productive... like finish that series I'm watching" is alive and well every time a weekend comes around.
4. We're more like a book with a lock on it.
We aren't going to spill everything about ourselves to you right away or maybe even after many months of knowing us. Talking about our feelings is something that we'd rather just avoid, too, because we don't really know how to go about it. It could take a while until we actually open up, but we aren't a completely closed book.
5. We hate talking to new people, but that doesn't mean we don't know how to talk.
Do we want to meet new people? Chances are a no, but we will because we don't want to be deemed the boring girl or the RBF girl. There are the awkward first conversations when you meet new people that we'd rather just avoid. Though we do have a way with words, and can make people like us with the way that we talk, which is probably why so many people mistake us for extroverts.
6. We do weird things with our phones, like not replying right away.
Some days we'll answer right away to everybody and some days we'll screen our calls and ignore the texts. Read receipts are the death of all outgoing introverts. Then when you have the read receipt off, you look at your phone at the end of the day and people have texted you four times each wondering if you died because you're not responding. 1. We got your message. 2. We read your message. 3. Are we going to reply to it right now? Maybe. We may be busy or we may just not want to talk right now, but either way... It was received and we maybe we don't feel like conversing with people all through out the day.
Living the outgoing introvert life is a struggle, trying to please our outgoing tendencies along with our love of the introvert life style.
