The Sheltered Lives Of Millennials, Narrated By A Former Stanford Dean

The Sheltered Lives Of Millennials, Narrated By A Former Stanford Dean

Apparently, 18-year-olds don't know how to look after their own needs.

A few weeks ago, I read a Quora response to the question "What are the skills every 18-year-old needs?" from former Stanford dean Julie Lythcott-Haims. You should read the answer for yourself, but what I took away from Lythcott-Haim's response was essentially a condescending, "millennials can't use public transit on their own. They'd probably fall over if we stopped holding their hands."

The very first sentence of the former Stanford dean's answer turned me away immediately. "An 18-year-old should be able to talk to strangers." Apparently, parents teach their children not to talk to strangers, and as such, their children are unable to communicate with the new people they will meet, her response continues. The author also mentioned that an 18-year-old should be able to help around the household and hold a part-time job because they've been brought up in an environment where they've never had any responsibilities to the household or a need for a job. Now, I have a question for her, too. Have you ever met a lower-income student? Like, ever?

Given what she's writing about, the author seems to be very far removed from reality. She speaks of sheltered children who are lost without the crutch of a wealthy guardian and applies it to a whole generation. She manages to do this with the most patronizing tone possible, "Kids don't know how to look after their own needs, respect the needs of others or do their fair share for the good of the whole," and that's a direct quote from the passage. I remind you that she's speaking about rising university students, some of whom are working three or four part-time jobs, while balancing their schoolwork to help out their family, others who have studied every single line of their textbooks to make up for the expensive college prep courses they can't afford. I once read an article that told Ivy League students to try waiting tables for once to "burst their bubble of ignorance," as if that wasn't what I, along with plenty of my classmates, had been doing for the past two years.

The looking down on millennials as an incompetent generation is rather common. I've come across tons of articles that tell me I need to get my nose out of my phone or to learn to build a wooden shack with my bare hands in Alaska. That is probably true to some degree, that my phone and I are practically inseparable and that I live in world of privilege that I'll never fully understand, but I most definitely know how to use public transit and I haven't even hit 18 yet. So, it seems that Julie Lythcott-Haim's response to "What are the skills every 18-year-old needs" is more representative of the parents who can afford to send their kids to Standford than of the honest students who have not stopped working to get themselves there.

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37 Things Growing Up in the South Taught You

Where the tea is sweet, but the people are sweeter.

1. The art of small talking.
2. The importance of calling your momma.
3. The beauty of sweet tea.
4. How to use the term “ma'am” or “sir” (that is, use it as much as possible).
5. Real flowers are way better than fake flowers.
6. Sometimes you only have two seasons instead of four.
7. Fried chicken is the best kind of chicken.
8. When it comes to food, always go for seconds.
9. It is better to overdress for Church than underdress.
10. Word travels fast.
11. Lake days are better than beach days.
12. Handwritten letters never go out of style.
13. If a man doesn’t open the door for you on the first date, dump him.
14. If a man won’t meet your family after four dates, dump him.
15. If your family doesn’t like your boyfriend, dump him.
16. Your occupation doesn’t matter as long as you're happy.
17. But you should always make sure you can support your family.
18. Rocking chairs are by far the best kind of chairs.
19. Cracker Barrel is more than a restaurant, it's a lifestyle.
20. Just 'cause you are from Florida and it is in the south does not make you Southern.
21. High School football is a big deal.
22. If you have a hair dresser for more than three years, never change. Trust her and only her.
23. The kids in your Sunday school class in third grade are also in your graduating class.
24. Makeup doesn’t work in the summer.
25. Laying out is a hobby.
26. Moms get more into high school drama than high schoolers.
27. Sororities are a family affair.
28. You never know how many adults you know 'til its time to get recommendation letters for rush.
29. SEC is the best, no question.
30. You can't go wrong buying a girl Kendra Scotts.
31. People will refer to you by your last name.
32. Biscuits and gravy are bae.
33. Sadie Robertson is a role model.
34. If it is game day you should be dressed nice.
35. If you pass by a child's lemonade stand you better buy lemonade from her. You're supporting capitalism.
36. You are never too old to go home for just a weekend… or just a meal.
37. You can’t imagine living anywhere but the South.

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8 things that can easily offend a black girl

This also applies to many minorities.


I surveyed different black girls from various backgrounds and here are their responses!

1. "Is that your hair?"

Please NEVER ask a black girl this unless you wear hair extensions or you happen to be GOOD friends. If you dare to be so bold, you may be cursed out or slapped! Fair warning!

2. "Can I touch you hair?"

Just how dumb it looks!

Solange and Beyonce have said it ENOUGH! I think it's safe to say that hair is OFF LIMITS, unless you're a lady of color or wear extensions. FYI women of color are NOT your personal petting zoo! So do NOT ask to touch our hair. It's very degrading and this could also lead to being SLAPPED!

3. "What are you mixed with?"

For those of you who don't know, women of color come in MANY different shades. Just because a girl has a lighter complexion doesn't mean that she isn't fully black. This also means that just because a black girl has fine textured hair, light colored eyes, or common euro-centric features doesn't mean she is not fully black!

4. "You're pretty for a black girl."

Did this bitch just say that?

If this sentence, or any variation of this sentence has ever left your lips, please PUNCH yourself! Although, the intention is meant to be a compliment, it is also a way to say that most black girls aren't beautiful! Such a statement would reiterate a stereotype that it is uncommon for black women to be beautiful.

5. "You are very articulate." ( Often said with such SHOCK)


​YES, black girls do attend school. It is actually required by law, and although our culture partakes in ebonics and slang, we are also very well aware of how to speak proper english. This is also a great time to point out that proper english does NOT BELONG TO WHITE PEOPLE. Minorities can speak english too!

6. "I have a black friend."

For some odd reason, people tend to blurt this particular statement out when surrounded by women of color. I would like to first say just because this comment is said or is true, doesn't mean you're not prejudice. I believe such statements are meant to make us feel more comfortable, but they actually do the opposite. In fact, this statement would only be said by someone who is actually trying to hide their prejudicial feelings behind their ONE black friend!

7. "Oh, well, you're different."

This statement often comes up after a racist comment was made. "Oh, well, you're different," only implies that other black people are not, and stereotypes are facts.

8. Singing/rapping N**** in a song is still WRONG

If you are NOT a person of color do NOT sing, rap, hmm, text, or even write this word. THANK YOU.

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