"It is illegal for women to go topless in most cities, yet you can buy a magazine of a woman without her top on at any 7-11 store. So, you can sell breasts, but you cannot wear breasts, in America." - Violet Rose

It amazes me how we are in the 21st century, and how everyday women are sexualized to the max. I can't go one day without hearing the words, "Oh, she's so hot," "Look at her tits," "Her ass is huge." it is literally revolting. And yet in today's society, this is the norm. What ever happened to women being liked because of their personalities, not looks? Everything we base our judgements on, are usually a person's looks, not what is inside.

Women do everything in their power to make themselves look sexual, but why? Why do we, as women, try to look good for men? I know why. Because this is what society has embedded in our brains. Intelligence in women is frowned upon, if a woman wears too much makeup she's trying too hard, if a woman isn't wearing a short enough skirt, she's considered a "grandma," but if a woman wears a skirt that is considered short, she is considered a whore. Where is the happy medium? Where is the line drawn? How is it fair to criticize a woman if her breasts aren't double D's? Newsflash people: it's not.

Advertising strategies always sexualize both men and women. More women are sexualized in advertisements, than men.

(The picture above is an advertisement for men's cologne. Not surprisingly a woman's breasts are sexualized. Go figure.)

Growing up I was constantly told that I was and still am flat-chested as if I actually cared (crying/laughing face emoji insert here). I do not spend countless hours putting on makeup or getting dressed up every day of the week because I do not need to. I am 100 percent okay with me, myself and I. I accept myself for who I am and what I look like. I do not compare myself to others, because I have accepted me. I am not trying to impress anyone, just trying to reach the goals in my life. You can spend all the money in the world on your looks, but does it really amount to anything? Because one day, your looks will be gone, and what is on the inside is what that will matter. I get offended when men say, "Oh, you're hot," or, "Why don't you have a boyfriend? You're so pretty." Like, thank you? Yet when a woman decides to breastfeed in public, it is looked at negatively, when in reality she is feeding her child, which is what breasts were intended for. They were not meant to sexualize and fantasize about. It's repulsive. And yet society is okay with this.

In today's world in America, all that seems to matter is looks. In other countries, women are beautiful with minimal to no makeup, and are allowed to be fully clothed. I fear for the future and what it will do to women. I do note that not only women are sexualized, men are too, but not nearly as much as women. A woman is not judged on her intelligence or personality at first glance, but rather the assets on her body. So when you are compared to other women, do not even second guess yourself. You cannot be compared to other women because you are your own person.

Love yourself and know your worth, not what men or society want you to look like. We are all beautiful, not sexual.