Dear Souls Like Mine,

Over and over again we try to convince ourselves that we completely agree with the actions or decisions of another person. Through self coaching, we try to persuade ourselves that the actions of a single individual do not directly influence our lives. We start to question our own lives on the pursuit to discover the soul behind the eyes of another. We give that person all the support; it is a genius act of deception. We gladly put their needs ahead of our own and try to prove that, in the end, both sides will "win". We are desperate to convince ourselves that we both are on "the same page" to the point of altering reality in our minds. We rationalize our need to please like they rationalize their need to destruct.

But why do we subject ourselves to this form of internal turmoil for the satisfaction of another person? Is it that we are so uncertain of ourselves that we can not possibly see how aiding the bad decisions of another person causes us to hinder our own success?

I believe it is our lack of self-worth that drives us to settle and accept. We should not have to reassure ourselves in the decisions we make. I challenge that when self-worth is acquire, self- respect will be gained. The true respect we need in order to succeed can only be found within the heart and mind of ourselves. Even though our greatest desire is to be on "the same page", I beg you to be willing to realize that particular page isn't worth your time and to aspire for the best things in life. Who knows, maybe that page will become everything you had dreamed of, but it is time to write your own. I pray we all will find the courage in ourselves to extract the self-deception from our lives.

With Great Love.