The Reason College Is The Time To Find Your Best Friend

The Reason College Is The Time To Find Your Best Friend

My advice is to be open to new experiences and people when you get to college - you never know who you could be missing out on.

"High School is the best four years of your life!" "The friendships you make in high school will last forever!" - I heard this too many times to count going through my four years of high school and after one year of college, I believe college friends are your forever friends.

So, why is college the best time to find your best friend?

College friendships are different than high school friendships because you are not being forced to see this person every day. It is a friendship by choice which allows the friendship to be honest and true. In high school, I remember those certain friendships that I had because I needed someone to talk to throughout the school day. Even though most friendships did not exist outside of the school day, I considered those people my best friends. After going to college, I learned quickly that most of these people were temporary friends and that there were different, more meaningful friendships to be made. High school friendships blossomed from convenience; you did not have to try very hard to be a good best friend because you saw the same people every day. Having a best friend in college is different because you must consistently make an effort to spend time with and be there for your friends. After you have established a strong friendship, you realize it exists on a very deep level because you have a bond that took time and commitment.

In college, everyone hopes to find the person who will go through all the firsts with such as the first day of classes, the first home football game, and the first spring break. This individual will be the one you choose to spend all of your free time with, whether this person is a roommate, a past classmate, a family member, or if you are as lucky as me, someone who has your same major and those people will hopefully be your lifelong friends. College is a time where you are searching for who you are as an individual and having the right people by your side who impact you in positive ways will help make college a successful and rewarding experience. It is important to find friends who share your same values because it makes it easier to find time for each other, to have things to talk about, and to not worry that they will ever undermine you or your values.

You get to choose what friendships you want to pursue. It is your decision to make on who you want to spend time with and because of this responsibility, it allows your friendships to be more involved and closer. Having a close friendship means that you will always have someone there if you have an off day or want to go on a random late-night walk.

In my personal experience - I met my best friend the day before classes started at a meeting with our advisor and every new student in our major. We began talking about our schedules and were looking for classes in common. We unfortunately did not have anything in common, but that did not stop the friendship. We had lunch after our classes were over the next day, and before I knew it I had found my best friend. We both chose to pursue the friendship and we began to go on adventures together, having dinner on our free nights, and binge-watching House on Netflix. We met by accident but I believe our friendship is fate. My advice is to be open to new experiences and people when you get to college - you never know who you could be missing out on.

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I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

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I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

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5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

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10. Vivacious

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11. Reckless

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I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

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When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

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An Open Letter To My Childhood Best Friend

To Molly Zucker, I hope this article makes everyone surrounding you hear your obnoxious, priceless laugh.


Dear childhood best friend,

When I look back on my childhood, there is only one person who reminds me of home: you. After moving out of state and time passing on, it's easy to forget where you came from and parts of your childhood. However, the minute I see your face and hear your goofy laugh, the feeling of home returns. You bring out the fun and young in me because let's be honest, you turned out to be the adventurous spontaneous one and I'm just a boring nerd in Organic Chemistry. No one can make my pure childhood laughs come out or make me feel as free-spirited and lively as much as you do.

Lexi Garber

We used to ride our bikes around town, eat salt and vinegar chips until our tongues burned, and do each other's makeup and nails. We would go to the mall and dress ourselves in this horrendous outfits, but ones that we actually thought were cute at the time (Why did you let me wear half of the stuff I did?) We wrote each other cards during Recess and talked about how much we would gossip on our Friday night sleepovers. I could recognize your cupcake vanilla perfume scent from a mile away, even from this day and when I do smell it, it brings back such a warm and comforting familiar feeling.

Lexi Garber

We would talk about what our future would be like, how fun high school would be and what it would be like if we went to the same college. I didn't know that I would move before all of that but little did I know we would remain best friends and talk every day still to this day. Although there are moments where it hurts me that I didn't get to watch you grow out of your crazy, middle school self and into this beautiful and amazing girl, I know one day we will be close in distance again. We still talk about our future like we know what's going to happen and hopefully, we will live together in NYC one day, like we've always talked about. Who knows where we will both end up, but no matter how far we are in distance, we will always be close at heart.

Lexi Garber

The best part of being long distance best friends is that when our other friends annoy us, we can randomly Facetime each other at any time for a quick laugh and a reminder of how sacred our special bond is. We get to plan trips to see each other and show each other what has changed in our lives, but there is one thing that will never change: our friendship. So here's to you being my maid of honor, crazy aunt for my future kids, my soulmate, best friend and partner in crime. You bring out the happiness and best in me and I will love you always and forever.


Your childhood best friend

Lexi Garber

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