Ever go to Starbucks by yourself and feel awkward taking up a two person table? Then have someone come up and ask to use the empty seat? Yes, it sends a second of fear down your spine, and you frantically play with your phone to avoid contact. I used to feel that way. Now I make a weekly hobby to do for myself. Even going somewhere to eat sometimes. People may look and say "Aw, she's by herself". But don't feel weird about it! There's this social impulse that you have to be with someone to go out somewhere.
We all have moments where we need a little time for ourselves, but we don't want to just sit around the house all day. Sure, it requires getting dressed and spending a few bucks, but hey it's something to do. Sometimes we need a few experiences of our own. It gives some independence, and allows us to have time to think.
If I have a day that I'm craving something, but everyone's at work or at school, I take a drive down and worry about the rest when I get there. I'll take my laptop down to a place like starbucks and just write, and get work done. It allows me to concentrate, and has started to give me a routine. Sure I can play with my laptop at home, but it gets me out and socializing on my own level.
I advise being safe in spending alone time, especially in going out by yourself. Always be careful with whatever you do, and go to a public place that theres more than just you. It's nice to have fun, but equally as important to stay safe.
It can suck, and be boring when you don't have anyone around to do something with, but independence comes with it. Don't be afraid to get a cup of coffee and sit and watch the world going on outside the storefront window. It opens our creativity, opens up new ideas, and works as a small healing process. Talking with our friends is always nice, and helps us find solutions to our problems. However, thinking of solutions on our own time works out too.
You start to see things in a slightly different way. You're able to just sit, relax, and not focus on getting out what you have to say. Despite the commotion, your quiet and you're just enjoying your cup of coffee. It's a refreshing feeling, really. Before you know it, hours pass by, and you just experience the moment. Soon, all of those little moments add up, and it isn't so bad. A change in environment can make a difference in the day.
It is odd sometimes when someone asks "Who are you going with?" and you say "Just myself". Everyone's so used to going out in pairs, or groups. It doesn't always have to be that way, and you really do start to learn from doing your own independent things. So take advantage of some alone time. It's good for you
