The Perks Of Being Socially Awkward

The Perks Of Being Socially Awkward

They really do exist

I'm a pretty awkward person. This is a fact generally acknowledged among the people in my life, and it's something that I've accepted at this point. It's been 21 years, and I don't imagine it's going to change anytime soon. But surely I'm not that awkward, right? People always feel like they're twelve times more awkward than they really are. And that might be a little true in my case, but the awkward is still strong in me.

For example, last week I was at work; I'm a server in a restaurant. A woman at one of my tables commented that she liked my engagement ring. Naturally, I replied "thank you" and answered her next question about the material by saying that it was made of titanium.

You're thinking that's not that bad. What's awkward about that? I'll tell you.

I am not engaged. And the ring isn't even titanium. It's stainless steel. I just panicked and words started coming out of my mouth before I could do anything about it. I walked away from the table, back into the kitchen, and just prayed she wouldn't ask how me and my supposed fiancee met.

Things like this happen to me all the time. Why? I don't know. I am a frequent victim of the "how do I greet this person?" paradox, where I sort of know them, but not really, so do I wave awkwardly? Do I go in for a hug like my other friend did? I'll never know the proper way to react in that scenario.

I do the thing where I say, "How are you?" And they respond and ask how I am. I say, "I'm good, how bout you?" Even though they just told me that two seconds ago.

When I feel like I should be talking but I have nothing to say, I just spout random facts. And let me tell you, using, "Did you know that Richard Nixon put ketchup on cottage cheese?" as an icebreaker is an interesting exercise.

I say, "the struggle is real" all the time. That's fairly normal. What's awkward is when you mutter "unless you're finding the square root of negative one, and then it's imaginary," to yourself afterward. That's a genuinely funny joke by the way.

Anyway, the point of all of this is that I'm a pretty awkward person. I just asked my roommate to name something awkward I do and she said, "Everything," immediately followed by eight specific examples. So I'm awkward. Yay. But actually I think it's sort of a good thing.

Because I've been so awkward my whole life that my awkwardness doesn't phase me that much anymore. Other people might be embarrassed by some of these encounters. I just use them as interesting anecdotes to tell people instead of talking about how mantis shrimp are the coolest ever. (That's another less than stellar icebreaker by the way.) It makes me seem like I'm hilarious and have lots of entertaining experiences when actually my life is just really awkward. People think I'm too cool to care, when in reality everything is just so awkward that I'm now immune.

So, pro life hack. Be awkward, and then spin your awkwardness into awesome.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs.

In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm...

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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My First College Gal Pal Road Trip Was Amazing

Every girl should have one good girls trip.


In some way or another, everybody has a list of things they want to do in their lives before it's all over. After all, we're human. There's adventure to be had in every life. One thing I have always wanted to do before I grew too old and grey was go on a road trip with my gal pals to the beach. A couple weeks ago, I achieved this memorable milestone, and it allowed me to open up to new surroundings and experiences.

On this trip, I went with two of my friends from college, Kait and Lindsey, to visit my roommate Elizabeth in Virginia Beach. This was pretty big for Lindsey and I because neither of us had been to Virginia Beach before. Thankfully Elizabeth and Kait knew their way around the city, so we never got lost on our way to and fro.

Like most vacations, my favorite parts probably took place at the beach. I'm always at utter peace stomping through mushy sand or leaning down to splash the salty water that tries to knock my short self over. We took pictures and did something us college girls rarely have time to do especially in school: Relax.

The four of us did not live up to the crazed stereotype of girl trips in movies. Although I finally got a chance to sing along to Taylor Swift in a car ride with my friends, so that's always a plus. We played "Top Golf" one day, and by some miracle, I actually won the second game by a fair amount after much humiliation in the first one. We visited some of Elizabeth's family, and I finally got to meet her giant dog Apollo (I call him 'Wolf Dog'). Everyday was another chance to ask with enthusiasm: "So what are we doing today?"

Our trip wasn't like the movies where we all cried or confessed our deepest darkest secrets. Everything the four of us shared was laughter and this calm feeling of being at home, in the chaotic peace of each other's company. We understand each other a little better due to finally seeing what we're like outside of Longwood University. After this, all I can say is that we're most definitely planning the next one!

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