This is for everyone that spends their life as the people pleasers. We do all these things that no one even realizes just so everything goes smoothly for those around us. We do so many things just to ensure that everyone has everything that they need. The problem is, where does that lead us? For me personally, it seems to leave me with an empty void that doesn’t seem like it will ever get filled. It’s getting really old to put so much effort into situations where that same effort is not reciprocated.
Then after this, I go lay in bed and tell myself that tomorrow is going to be different, tomorrow I will say no when people ask me to do things for them. But then tomorrow comes, and there I sit. There I sit with a list of things to do because I just couldn’t stop and say no to everyone else’s needs.
For that moment of gratification when someone is actually appreciative for what you have done for them, is what I thrive on. All I want is for people to say thank you and show some form of gratitude toward the sacrifices that have been made. I guess for now, what I have to remember is that at some point I have to realize that I have the power to control my life. The power to choose what I want to do and who I need in my life is up to me.
When I reflect upon all that I have done and the current state of my life, I have come to the realization that I really need to make a commitment to myself. This commitment needs to be one that I actually stick to in the long run. I need to put myself first some and realize who the true friends and the trustworthy people that I have in my life. Too often I get caught up in all that I don’t have and I fail to remember all the good things that are happening in my life. There really is so much to be thankful for, and I think that is something that we all need to remember.
Even though times can get stressful and seem as though it won’t end, we need to remember that at some point it will all pass. At some point, we will wake up and we won’t remember why we were upset in the first place. So now, here I am, here we are; the people pleasers of the world trying to move past this rut. Right now, this rut seems to be so deep that there won’t be a way to climb out of it. From this, all I can say is that we need to continue to try, we need to continue to fight through the consistent feeling that we have to be the hero. We don’t have to be the heroes all the time, sometimes all that we need to do is sit back and be saved rather than be the saver.
