“The One Who Broke You Cannot Fix You”
The line every newly single girl is told as they outstretch their soaked arm to answer the “ex text”.
The line that makes any emotionally unstable girl cringe as those sharp words roll off the tongue of her best friend.
Contrary to popular belief, the one who broke your heart can be the one to fix it. Don’t misconstrue the idea into a notion that the guy who crippled your heart will arrive on your door steps in a suit of armor while your favorite boy band plays in the background. It won’t happen like that.
But, if you are certain that you are not ready to let go and give up on this guy, then don’t. No one can tell you it is time to move on except for your own heart.
I’ll run the risk of sounding like a cliché Hallmark card and tell you that people do change. The ogre boyfriend that was totally wrong won’t all of a sudden become Mr. Right.I can’t tell you that if you resuscitate a dead horse long enough and love him just the right amount that he will come back to life and be everything you have dreamed of. However, people do have the ability to flip the script and right the wrongs they made. The key is knowing when it is time to move on and trusting your heart. Know the difference between love and lust. Get to know yourself on a deeper level. Then, if you still are sure he is the one you are meant to be with, answer that “ex text” that we all know is sitting in your phone as you stare at it.
He knows the mistakes he made and if you two can come to a conclusion and meet in the middle, things can change and work out. Relationships are about compromise and learning how to care about someone else as much, or more, than you care about yourself. Trust your heart but guarantee that your brain isn’t viciously excluded from the decision making process.
If you can’t get through the day without a pit in your stomach telling you that he is the one, if he makes you a better person, if he believes in your dreams, if he picks you up when you fall and he wipes the gravel from your lacerations, if he keeps you grounded while allowing your mind to carelessly wander in the clouds, if he challenges you to think, TAKE THE CHANCE AND TRY AGAIN. He is the only person who knows the inside of your heart better than he knows his own. Often times relationships come at the wrong time in life and we chalk the failed relationship up to a “he sucks.” At the end of the day, you know he is who you want to be with. He is the other half of your puzzle piece. He is the beat in your heart and the highlight to your contour.
Let go of the apprehension and take a chance. You are only young once and sometimes giving life to what is perceived as a “dead situation” inspires a full 360 degree turn around. Sometimes you have to fall and get a few cuts on the way down in order to appreciate the height of your flight.
Signed, 9 months engaged.
