What if the one that got away, came back?
All of life you are surrounded by this notion that, if you love something, you set it free. If it returns to you, then it is meant to be, but if it never finds its way back, then let it be lost.
I always believed that things would just never find its way back if I let it go. That once something is gone, it is gone forever.
Thankfully, I got proven wrong.
This isn't some sappy love story of a guy who breaks a girls heart because he wanted to move on. This is the love story of a woman sharing a man with the military.
Boot camp felt like a million worlds away and we felt like being apart was the best for both of us to grow. We vowed that when the thirteen weeks was up, we might give it another shot but neither of us really knew the fate of our relationship.
So, when the time comes, you have to chose what you want to do when they show up right in front of you.
You either have the chance to rekindle the romance that you restlessly longed for. If you choose to take that chance, you might get a real shot at the love you always wanted and you will finally stop wondering what could have been. And if you choose to let that chance pass you by because you are afraid of getting hurt again, the decision may follow you around wherever life takes you.
If you decide to give it a chance, you will have to do things differently this time around. When you reunite, you will have to re-learn everything about him, especially what has happened when you were apart. You have to ask a lot of questions and you have to ask the most important question: can we make this work?
Ask about his present life, ask about what changed about him, and ask him how he sees you now. Try to get to know the person he is and the person he wants to be, try to determine if there’s room for you in his current and future plans. Most importantly, figure out if the long distance is something you both are willingly to work out.
For this love story, we both wanted to take the next step in our relationship and commit to being together through the days we both feel on top of the world and the days that we want nothing more than just time alone. Even if it means being thousands of miles apart for months and our anniversary is spent both out at dinner but only together through FaceTime, we wanted it.
Once I saw my marine's face for the first time, I realized that the person I loved got away from me for a few months, and I never wanted to let that happen again. I want him back with me forever and I am beyond blessed with this second opportunity.
If you love something or someone, set them free and if they come back, never ever let them go.
