The need to be liked by society.

I used to be so stressed about being liked by people and being accepted by them. I used to want people to like me, and if they did not like me, I used to want to ask them why they did not like me. I used to be so desperate for people to like me that I did not take time to know who I was or what I wanted in life. I lost myself and I lost my way. I wanted everyone to like me, and if they did not that made me feel like something was wrong with me. I never even remembered that people did not like even Jesus who was perfect. If Jesus was perfect and He was not liked by everyone, how would I get that hundred percent like that I want? I then decided that I was wasting my time,energy, and effort with trying to get likes. I realised that it would be a total waste of my time worrying over those who did not like or to try and understand why people did not like me. I have gotten to a point in my life where I do not have the energy or the time to waste on people who do not like me. If a person does not like me, they can keep their likes in their closet and lock it up forever.If a person likes me then I appreciate them. I have to realize that some people will not like you, even if you gave them your life. I have learned to just be okay with myself and love myself. I do not force myself on others or try to be accepted anymore.

I accept myself and I love who I am. I have always loved who I was. I have loved the process to being the strong woman I am now, but the process has not been easy at all. I suffered from depression over why people did not like me, and I thank God I am stronger today and closer to God. I have learned to not rely on people for anything but trust God. I am a strong and independent woman. I love to see other strong women who are working on loving themselves and I empower them. I stopped focusing on other people, their opinions, deeds, and thoughts.

I love Adichie for speaking up about likability, and that changed my life.

“All over the world, girls are raised to be make themselves likeable, to twist themselves into shapes that suit other people.Please do not twist yourself. Don’t do it. If someone likes that version of you, that version of you that is false and holds back, then they actually just like that twisted shape, and not you. And the world is such a gloriously multifaceted, diverse place that there are people in the world who will like you, the real you, as you are.” - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.

http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/blogs/549467/chimaman...

I believe that the issue of being liked should be addressed because people worry about being liked. I used to worry about being liked until I realized that I'm not on earth to please people or even make friends, but my aim is to fulfill my purpose for God.I think everyone wants to be liked on earth but the possibility to be liked by everyone is zero percent because the world is so multi-faceted. The world is such a diverse place that even twins cannot see the same thing or think the same way.

Likability is something that is not necessary if we want to fulfill our purposes here on earth.

Even great people have haters too. It is such a big world that people always have their own opinions.Great people like Barack Obama,Oprah Winfrey, and Bill Gates have haters. You don't really say someone before them to compare these three to. Sheryl Sandberg wrote in her book lean in that the more powerful women become, the less likeable they are.Being liked is not necessary as long as we are living good lives and achieving our goals and dreams.I believe that being liked is overrated.

I want more women to stand up and be confident. I encourage women to not care about being liked, but focus on important things in life like career and personal relationships that inspire us and not bring us down. I believe that everyone deserves a second chance at doing what they love, even if they did not win the first time. Beyonce was depressed for a long time because she was told she was not talented. I think most people know Beyonce now.

The world is such a big place that out of 100 people who do not like us,at least one person will not like us.I believe that the world is too big to be worried about one person or a few people who do not like us because of their own bigotry or ideas, whatever they may be.

I have learned to stay in my own lane and focus on myself, my passions,my goals,my dreams,my life,my fans (I have a lot of people who love me and follow my success), and my mum. I focus on God and family and nothing else. I focus on greatness and not mediocrity. I am not worried by the opinion of sheep (the haters) as it does not add to my life at all. It does not pay my bills, pay for treats (movies, restaurant, books, and groceries), or buy my expensive clothes that I like. If someone's like does not add to my value, then I am not interested in that like at all (not even if I am paid).

There is an example.

If Barack Obama does not like me, I would want to know why he is one of the greatest men on earth, and I would appreciate if he is on the list of those who like me. (I would like to know him personally.) I would want to ask him why and settle it and make peace.If Kiley Panama does not like me, I would be forced to ask myself what value does Kiley add to my life period if there is no value, I would be forced to thrash Kiley and her opinion.

In conclusion, life is too short to waste on irrelevant people and their irrelevant opinions. Time is too precise to waste on peripheral issues when there are important things in life to focus on. I focus on my life and God and I eliminate negativity and drama from my life. My lifetime will never be wasted on haters and their poison but on God and destiny. I will not waste any more of my life on losers and haters when I have better things to do with my precious life. I know I had a bad past, but I am determined to have a great life and future. I am determined to be a strong woman like my own mother.

"Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus."

Philippians 3:12 to 14.

This is the principle that guides my life everyday. I am determined to move forward each day and not look back. I am determined to learn my lessons and not dwell on my pain. I am very focused on fulfilling my purpose and being a global figure. I seek to make changes in the world so that I can be a pioneer of the future. I want to help those who are hurting and help them heal. I am grateful for all the opportunities that God has brought my way. I want to use my life to inspire others too. I want to leave a legacy on earth and make a huge difference in other people’s lives.