Girls fall for the smooth talking, intelligent, attractive boy, because it’s in our innate nature to see his “potential.” We see what he could be, we see where the relationship could lead, and ultimately, in a moment of weakness, we allow our hearts to be broken by someone who shouldn’t have even touched our hearts. Lately, I’ve been hearing so many stories about “talking” relationships - the ones that lead to nothing but heartbreak, sob sessions with your best friend, binge-eating ice cream, and Taylor Swift jam sessions. So stop. Stop letting a guy have so much power over you. You are the author of your own life. Don’t hand over the pen to someone else. Don’t let someone else write your story for you. So darling, here is the kind of guy you do deserve:

• You deserve the kind of guy who respects your needs and priorities. The kind of guy who doesn’t question your decisions or choices, because you are a capable young woman, who needs neither his permission nor his approval.
• You deserve the kind of guy whose actions mimic his beautifully crafted words.
• You deserve the kind of guy who doesn’t leave you wondering where you stand in his life, so you don’t have to wonder about his hidden motives. The kind of guy who doesn’t make you question where he is, who he’s with, or what he’s doing.
• You deserve the kind of guy who works hard to earn the respect, trust, and approval of your family and friends. As the ones looking in, they might see things that you might have missed.
• You deserve the kind of guy who calls you just because he wants to hear your voice.
• You deserve the kind of guy who doesn’t play with your heart or your emotions. You deserve the kind of guy who walks into your life, and proves with his actions, why he is different from all the other guys you’ve met in your life.
• You deserve the kind of guy who makes your world a little bit more colorful and a little bit brighter. While he may burn bright, know that in the wise words of Christina Yang, you are still the sun, my dear. You are still the strong, independent, young woman in charge of your life.
• You deserve the kind of guy you know you can live without, but you still choose to be with him because you are stronger together than apart.
• You deserve the kind of guy you can completely be yourself with. The kind of guy who thinks your past, imperfections, insecurities, vulnerabilities, and scars are beautiful because they have molded you into the strong, beautiful woman you are today.
• You deserve the kind of guy who doesn’t use you as a means of convenience or to ease his severe case of boredom - because darling, you have places to be, people to meet, and goals to smash. Your time is valuable; don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
• You deserve the kind of guy who is willing to move at your pace. The kind of guy who earns your trust and doesn’t force you into doing anything you’re not comfortable with.
• You deserve the kind of guy who understands that you don’t do casual flings, and that every word you say is every word you mean. You deserve someone who doesn’t take your trust, feelings, and emotions for granted. You deserve someone, who doesn’t misuse the feelings and emotions you have placed in his palms, and doesn’t abuse his power and crush them.
• You deserve the world and more, darling. Don’t let a guy carve your life, or tell you that you aren’t good enough as you are, or that you need to change yourself for him to like you more. You are perfect just the way you are. You don’t need to change yourself for someone. You don’t need to say yes to everything just to please him. If he really likes you, he’ll like you for YOU, and that my dear, will be very apparent. So wait, and wait patiently. You’ll meet the man of your dreams, and you’ll finally understand why it has never worked out with anyone else.