We’ve all been there. No matter what age you are, if you are in a long term relationship, you have probably found yourself asking how long it has been since the last date night. And WHY you haven’t been on one in THAT long? After I ask myself that question, something inside me clicks.
“Ohhh.. That kind of makes sense because we’ve been annoying each other lately..”
We live in a fast pace society that tells us to go until we can’t and then go a little bit more. Rest is for the unsuccessful and time is of the essence. We are told that we have to focus on ourselves and what’s best for us.
We also live in a society with a terribly high divorce rate.
I’m not saying that date nights are directly related to divorce by any means, but I do think that the goal of a long lasting and satisfying relationship combined with the goal of the fast pace lives we live can conflict with each other. We need to take time out of our busy schedule to love on those that love us the most. We need to rest and just dwell in each other’s presence. We need to be UNproductive for a moment and breathe.
Date nights are the times to forget your phone at home, forget your other responsibilities and take a moment to deeply love on the person sitting across from you. It’s a time to remember why you’re both still here; why you feel in love in the first place. A time to focus on why you are still fighting for each other and choosing this relationship daily.
It’s vital, yet extremely overlooked. Without them, relationships crumble, but it still turns into something we can “just do next week.” How is it that those most important to us can end up on that backburner? How is it that we will let that casually happen? Yes, life gets in the way, but love must be fought for. Fight for your date nights and don’t let them stop. They are the heart beat of your relationship.
