The Importance of Being Honest

The Importance of Being Honest

Even though we all lie sometimes, we can still be honest.
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I know this will probably seem like a boring idea, since the importance of being honest literally seems like common sense, to say the least. However, there is a need to write about this, because it applies to a whole manner of different things, like relationships, work, opinions, and an individual itself.

Being honest has so many benefits. Just to start, it:

  • Helps an individual be true to his or herself: Being honest with yourself helps you to bring out your authenticity and uniqueness as an individual. You do not have to apologize for anything, because it will not offend anyone, unlike if you were caught being someone you are not. You are basically not a “lie”.
  • Allow people to appreciate you more: By being honest, people will also genuinely appreciate whatever you have to say, because it is not sugarcoated.
  • Does not allow you to manipulate others, or mislead them: Being honest does not allow you to come across as manipulative to some, and does not allow you to accidentally mislead others as well. What you say is what you do, and ends up being final.
  • Allows you not to end up hurting people (in a way that leaves them scarred): Even if being honest hurts someone important to you, at least it’s the truth and will not really hurt them for too long. However, if you are dishonest, it will hurt someone even more once the truth comes out. And besides, being dishonest gives you an ugly personality.
  • It will flush out the wrong people in your life: By being honest, especially with yourself, you will know what kind of people you want in your life. You will be able to pinpoint the dishonest, manipulative, and inconsistent people in your life and be able to get rid of them at some point.

  • You will attract the right people to come into your life: #5 literally explains itself.
  • You don’t have to put in a lot of work being someone you’re not: Being yourself is easy, while not being yourself takes so much work.
  • People will appreciate your views, because it is solid and consistent, even if it’s something that people disagree on.
  • You are less likely to be a narcissist or a sociopath: Narcissists and sociopaths are generally miserable people, and will hurt others to make themselves feel better. Lying and dishonesty is a very common tactic they use to get their way around to people.
  • Dishonesty eventually makes you lose all your friends and family, so just be honest to avoid future misery.
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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

This one's for you.
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Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

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Take A Second To Appreciate The Little Things In Life

Don’t let yourself get too caught up in the whirlwind of life to a point where you forget to count your blessings. Spend a minute, maybe even five, to look around and just remember the insignificant, yet heartwarming details that make the world a bit more bearable.

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Appreciate the little things.

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Cherish the moments that may not seem significant at the time

The instances when you feel that indescribable sense of happiness from within and just for a second, it seems like the universe may just have your back.

We tend to spend most of our time encapsulated in the stress and ongoing commotion of our everyday life. So much so that we tend to focus only on the destination rather than the journey. We jump head first into wanting to accomplish the most daunting of goals and often forget to celebrate the little milestones that helped us get to where we are today.

Take a second, stop what you're doing, and just remember.

Remind yourself of the insignificant moments that made you happy in the slightest manner. We're all going to remember the key points in our lives: awards assemblies, graduating, relationships, etc… However, in a few years, many of us won't be able to recall what I like to call the "small infinities." More so, the times where we feel that stillness in between the chaos and become aware of how great life can be.

Take pictures, videos, keep up with a journal, or do anything you possibly can to record the everyday moments around you. In a personal sense, anytime I'm hanging out with friends or just feel like I had a good day, I write it down. I write it down because in the future, I want to remember and be able to reminisce on the perhaps almost forgotten memories of my past.

Don't take these moments for granted, because you truly never know what the next day will bring. Tell your loved ones how much they mean to you, let them know that you care. Give your mom a simple "thank you" for making you dinner, or your friend for bringing you an apple one day because they happened to be listening to that time you mentioned you love apples.

Appreciate the 'serendipities' that may happen around you, welcome then with wide arms and allow them to remind you to count your lucky stars.

Appreciate that time your friend sent you something followed by the phrase, "This reminded me of you." Or the time a complete stranger offered to buy your bagel and coffee after seeing that you were short on cash.

Remember moments like when you've been sitting in your car with your best friend, talking for hours about anything and everything that comes to mind. Think about the time you laughed so hard your sides hurt and struggled to keep a straight face when explaining the context to someone.

Remember the really pretty sunset you saw outside your house, how the colors danced from orange to pink and the whole sky looked like cotton candy. Take a picture of it, because maybe one day you'll need that cotton candy sky to help you find a silver lining when you're on your last whim of hope.

Smile at that warm, sunny day you had been waiting for, for the fact that someone complimented your outfit, or that you heard your favorite song on the radio while driving home.

Celebrate the small victories. Whether it be that you finally finished a book you had been dying to read, or you made a good grade on a test you were terrified for.

No matter how small, your accomplishments are valid and worth taking note of.

Think about the time you felt like you were having the worst day possible then saw a cute dog and instantly felt just a tiny bit better. Or all the nights you've spent watching your favorite show and just relaxing.

These are the little things I am talking about. While these instances may not be specific to everyone, my point is that there's an infinitesimal amount of small minutes and seconds worth of memories that we decide aren't "important enough" or too mundane to be remembered. These small infinities help ground. They bring us the slightest bit of happiness in a world that can sometimes overpower us.

Appreciate the little things.

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Cherish the moments that may not seem significant at the time.

The instances when you feel that indescribable sense of happiness from within and just for a second, it seems like the universe may just have your back.

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