I believe that everything happens for a reason.
The people who come into your life are there for a purpose. Whether to stay for a week, month, or year, God sent these people to be with you for a reason. People come and people go, it’s just a part of life. I believe that there are all different kinds of people in the world. There’s the tape, the glue, and the hammer.
Once something breaks you into teeny-tiny pieces, these people either put you back together or break you even more.
The Tape
They come into your life for a short time. They usually do not plan on coming back because they see your problems as a burden. They will not work as hard to fix your broken pieces because they do not plan on staying around for long. That’s why they are called “the tape." You see, if you tape a poster to your bedroom wall, it usually ends up falling on the floor at some point. I used to have a Harry Styles poster on my wall and one day, the tape gave out. No matter how many times I tried to stick the poster back onto my wall, it just would not stay up. The tape will fix your broken heart for a short time but it will eventually wear away when they walk out of your life, leaving your heart to be broken again.
The Glue
They will come into your life and they will never ever intend on leaving you. They stay around for the laughs, the proud moments, and most importantly, the tears. The best part about the glue is that they rarely cause tears and if they do happen to, they always fix their mistakes. The glue usually happens to be someone who will stay in your life forever, regardless of the label on your relationship. For example, my parents got a divorce when I was 8, yet they still stick around each other because of us kids. Miraculously, my parents are still best friends no matter how much they have been through. They are each other's glue. With that being said, they make me strive to find someone that will be my own glue someday.
The Hammer
The hammer causes the heartbreak. Sometimes, the hammer will come into your life when you are already broken from another hammer. This new hammer will take the tiny pieces of your heart and break them even more. They always intend on leaving. My last two serious relationships just happened to end up as hammers. I would never have thought that I could survive without them but here I am. The heartbreak that the hammers cause will not last forever, I promise you this.
So yes, everything happens for a reason. Now ask yourself this. Who is your partner? For everyone reading this, I hope you have someone who is the glue, or one day you will find someone who is. For those of you who have not found your glue and are struggling to find the motivation to do so, remember to stay strong. Your happily ever after is just one hammer away.
