In one of my recent leadership meetings, we participated in a discussion activity titled, "The Great College Debate." Essentially, the two sides are (1) college is a time for hard work, upholding values, and educational dedication, and (2) college is a time for self-discovery, experimentation, and trial and error. Quite honestly, I had never even considered college divided like that.

I 100% agree that college is a time for hard work. We're paying a big price for the next level of education and further preparation for our careers and futures. However, this preparation is not only found in textbooks and recorded lectures.

A lot of the information I have been exposed to has come from actual experiences. A part of growing up is learning how to live in the real world (on your own). College has its own unique way of teaching us how to live- throw us ("adults") into the ocean and hope we'll figure it out how to swim (and soon).

It is not actually that harsh, but that is the general idea. We're now (mostly) responsible for bills, managing our own health (mental and physical), school (now more than ever), cleanliness, laundry, and so on. Naturally, some started to swim quicker than others, but in general, most students are starting to tread water now.

So, when I really began to think about what "side" I was on, I tended to lean towards a time for self discovery and trial and error. Just because you are working inward does not mean you are not focused on studies. That inner journey might actually enhance your work.

My biggest piece of advice for friends, families, and even new faces? One semester. Give yourself and others one semester to figure themselves out. Students need at least that amount of time to start a new life and begin to find who they really are. Be patient.