The Great Big Fear Of Change

"They" tell us change is good. So why is it so damn scary and uncomfortable?

The daunting challenge to participate in change presents itself from time to time throughout our lives. At the age of 26, I am a recent college graduate, my lease ends in June, and I am faced with the reality that my next steps can significantly alter the course of my life.

I suppose we could say this about absolutely any day. From the moment we open our eyes in the morning (or early afternoon, for some) we have the ability to make choices that change our lives.

But how many of us do this? And, if we don't... why not?

There is a comfort in routine. There is a certain pride in our traditions. Maybe the idea of changing everything completely, or opting for an entirely different life, scares us so much because with so many other uncertainties, we need to feel some sense of security. We cling to the comfort of routine because the alternative is the great unknown - and while this can be exhilarating to fantasize about, it can also be terrifying when actually executed.

So. Here's what I propose... Embrace the fear.

I know, I know - So much easier said than done. How cliche. Blah.

But, I mean it. Embrace it. As much as you possibly can. Even through the tears and frustration, and maybe especially then. However, let the fear live side by side with your intent, ambition, and heart.

Fear and excitement are basically related, and as soon as we can allow ourselves to feel both and carry on with whatever future plans we have, the sooner we open up our lives to new experiences.

People will start to learn your name in that new city. You will start to learn the streets and bus routes before you even realize what is happening. You will find your favorite restaurant and grocery store. You will build relationships with human beings you would have never otherwise encountered had you not made that first fearful step.

"They" say change is good. Maybe they're right... maybe they're wrong. Maybe you won't ever know your own truth until you try.