For years, I have experienced the epidemic of the “good” guy curse.

Women would be aware of my characteristics as a good partner, respectfulness, and kindness, but never invest in entering an actual romantic relationship. If a person says “I just want to be friends,” then that should be respected.

Being a “good” guy seems to invite comfortability and closeness with women, but not enough to close the deal.

To quickly clarify, there is a fine difference between a "nice" guy and a "good" guy.

Nice guys are men that are continuously abused for their kind hearts. Good guys are men that have kind hearts, but won’t take any crap.

Simply, nice guys are associated with being doormats, and good guys will respectively show you the door if you’re not worth the time or stress.

Being a good guy can be tiring, especially in a world where many women say they want a "good" guy and a healthy relationship, but repeatedly go for men who will play with their emotions, not communicate, leave them guessing, and play games.

We live in a society that doesn't know how to seek and capitalize on healthy relationships.

Myself, I’m not perfect, but I’ll listen to you, share my thoughts, and cuddle with you when you want.

I’ll ask you about your day, try not to fix your hardships, unless you ask me to help, and I’ll do what I can to make you feel better.

I am adamant at keeping promises and acknowledging when I'm at fault, because I care about our growth, together.

I’m not here to talk about being a victim or whine about how “good guys always finish last,” not even close. I’m here to let you know to think twice before playing games with me and wasting my energy.

So, first off, don’t waste my time. I’ve had a lot of women take advantage of my time, energy, and money, so if your intentions are not on investing in a real relationship, then stop. You may like the sense of control, security, or affection, but that says much more about your state of being.

Second, understand I did not just come out as a “good” guy. It took a lot of pain and hardship to develop into who I am. It took deep thought, strong choices, and a process of maturity for me to be the person I am today. I sought better to be better. I've developed a great deal of patience, not just for disrespect. With that said, I’ll walk away before you do, because I would rather not make another mistake.

Third, which parallels with the second, I know what unhealthy and toxic relationships feel and look like. This is not out of paranoia or anxiety; it is actually because, after the trials and errors of my past, red flags appear redder. If you do something that alarms me, I'll ask, and that goes both ways.

Fourth, communication is something that I have grown to appreciate. I am clear in my intentions and voice them out, and I hope to receive the same. Too much toxicity is prolonged due to lack of communication, and playing games actually aren't as fun as playing Scrabble. I love Scrabble.

Let me reiterate, again, there is nothing wrong with just being friends. I only ask for you to share your intentions. Both friendship and romantic relationships are built on the same foundation, trust. If there is no trust or respect, then why continue? It will be a house with constantly shaking from its foundation.

So if you are interested in me, or any good guy at some point in your life, I would reevaluate your intentions.

Signed,

A great guy.