To The Girls Whose Recruitment Didn't Go As Planned

To The Girls Whose Recruitment Didn't Go As Planned

Maybe you ended up in a sorority you didn't want, and maybe you didn't end up in a sorority. Either way, this one's for you.

Sorority recruitment: it's scary and exciting, it seems to be the "end all be all" as far as your social status in college, and it's one of the most stressful weeks of a girl's freshman (or sophomore/junior) year. I went through recruitment at the University of Georgia and was blessed to receive a bid from my favorite sorority. Everything went the way I planned, and I was thrilled.

However, not everyone is as fortunate as I was. Not everyone is happy at the houses they visit during Pref, and not everyone actually makes it to that final round. And while it's easy to blame yourselves or the sororities for these altercations, there are a few things I want to let you know:

1. You didn't do anything wrong.

Absolutely nothing. The Lord made you absolutely perfect in His eyes. Don't ever say "I wasn't pretty enough" or "I wasn't skinny enough" to be in so-and-so sorority, because let's face it, real sororities made up of real girls don't hold that standard upon anyone. Recruitment is hard enough as it is. You have to get up before the sun has even considered rising, hair and makeup to a tee and ready to go to show girls your killer first impression. I can promise you that you are good enough. Don't let a rejection from a sorority tell you differently.

2. The girls in the sorority know which kind of girls would thrive in their new pledge classes.

Trust me on this one. I remember getting cut from one of my favorite houses and being told the next week by one of my friends who was an active member in said sorority, "We just didn't see you finding your future best friends in the pledge class of girls we were going to get." And while that sucked, it makes total sense. Would you really want to be in a sorority with girls you aren't going to be best friends/"sisters" for life with?

3. One person can't sway an entire sorority's opinion.

Sure, I had a few friends in many sororities. But one girl pulling for me wasn't enough to convince 200+ girls to want me to join. It's kind of impossible. So if you didn't get into the sorority your best friend since birth was in, don't be bitter.

4. Your identity isn't found in what letters you wear.

Honestly, I can't stress this enough. This is so applicable to the girls who left recruitment with their favorite letters on their t-shirt and to the girls who left recruitment still wearing their high school basketball team's t-shirt. Sure, being in a sorority is incredible and has given me so many great memories and opportunities. But the Lord's plan for you is so, so much bigger than what group of girls you get to call your sisters.

Before He formed you in the womb, He knew you (Jeremiah 1:5). He has been calling you His since before you were even born. 1 John 3:1-2 says, "See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!" Yes, you may be a sister in a certain sorority or just a regular, non-Greek freshman at school. But despite all of the labels that this world is going to put on you, you are a child of God. You are His first love, His favorite late-night conversation, His biggest concern, and His friend. And that matters SO much more than any title we can earn on this earth.

So, to the ladies whose recruitment didn't necessarily go the way as planned: be hopeful. Know that He is working, and His plan for you is so much greater than you know. Make the best of this life because I promise you, your time at college is going to be the sweetest years of your life. And no lack of letters on your t-shirt will be able to compare to what's in store for you.

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I Blame My Dad For My High Expectations

Dad, it's all your fault.

I always tell my dad that no matter who I date, he's always my number one guy. Sometimes I say it as more of a routine thing. However, the meaning behind it is all too real. For as long as I can remember my dad has been my one true love, and it's going to be hard to find someone who can top him.

My dad loves me when I am difficult. He knows how to keep the perfect distance on the days when I'm in a mood, how to hold me on the days that are tough, and how to stand by me on the days that are good.

He listens to me rant for hours over people, my days at school, or the episode of 'Grey's Anatomy' I watched that night and never once loses interest.

He picks on me about my hair, outfit, shoes, and everything else after spending hours to get ready only to end by telling me, “You look good." And I know he means it.

He holds the door for me, carries my bags for me, and always buys my food. He goes out of his way to make me smile when he sees that I'm upset. He calls me randomly during the day to see how I'm doing and how my day is going and drops everything to answer the phone when I call.

When it comes to other people, my dad has a heart of gold. He will do anything for anyone, even his worst enemy. He will smile at strangers and compliment people he barely knows. He will strike up a conversation with anyone, even if it means going way out of his way, and he will always put himself last.

My dad also knows when to give tough love. He knows how to make me respect him without having to ask for it or enforce it. He knows how to make me want to be a better person just to make him proud. He has molded me into who I am today without ever pushing me too hard. He knew the exact times I needed to be reminded who I was.

Dad, you have my respect, trust, but most of all my heart. You have impacted my life most of all, and for that, I can never repay you. Without you, I wouldn't know what I to look for when I finally begin to search for who I want to spend the rest of my life with, but it might take some time to find someone who measures up to you.

To my future husband, I'm sorry. You have some huge shoes to fill, and most of all, I hope you can cook.

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