To The Girls Who "Float" Between Friend Groups

To The Girls Who "Float" Between Friend Groups

Sometimes it's hard to know where you fit.

There are different kinds of friendships. There's casual acquaintances, work buddies, best friends, temporary school friends. The type of friends you have can make a massive difference in your life; in fact, friends are one of the most influential parts of growing up. Different types of people like different sorts of friendships, too. Some prefer to have one or two close friends, others have a large group of besties. One that isn't talked about often though are the people who 'float' between friend groups.

My entire life, I've been a bit of a floater. I moved around a lot growing up, so I was never one of those girls with a set group of friends since preschool. I had to learn to make new friends quickly, and I always sort of expected to end up moving again, so I never set any deep roots. Even long after my family stopped moving, I hadn't found my "group." I had friends in different places: music friends, horse friends, school friends. All throughout high school, my circle was a constantly changing mix of people. This sort of life has followed me to college, where even now, I don't really have a "squad" to call my own.

Of course, I have a couple of people I consider my best friends. This doesn't really change the bigger dynamic of my friend group, though. Being a floater is freeing, but also hard. It's freeing in the sense that you have so many options. You can call up anybody from different parts of your life to do different things with. You have people you relate to in different ways. You have people you value for various reasons, but they're all important. There are more chances to help and be helped. The flip side, however, can be very lonely. It gets hard to watch your friends have their own, main groups. When you hang out with them, it can feel like you're on the edge of a circle you don't really belong in.

I don't say this to be negative: I consider myself to have some amazing friends. And I've been blessed to have them, all scattered in various pieces of my life. Floating has taught me to appreciate people for who they are and the time I get to spend with them. Not every friendship lasts a long time, but they all leave behind a lasting mark.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.

The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.


the loving granddaughters

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Being The Last Friend To Turn 21 Isn't ALL Bad

All your friends have turned 21, but that is okay


You may think being the last one out of your friend group to turn twenty-one is the worst thing in the world, but in all honesty, it doesn't have to be. One of the biggest perks is that everyone of your friends can go out to the bars with you on your birthday. All the people who turn twenty-one first have to wait for people to be able to go out with them, but you get to celebrate your birthday with all of your friends.

Another huge reason you should feel okay with being last to turn twenty-one is thinking about all the money you are saving. The bars are expensive. When you don't go to the bars you are saving so much money because an average bar drink is about seven dollars. This being said seven dollars multiple times a night, multiple nights a week really adds up, so you are going to have to budget your money better.

You don't have to be the one to buy alcohol for everyone else. Having a ton of people ask you to buy them alcohol must get annoying at a point, and if you're the youngest out of your friends, no one will be asking you to do liquor store runs for them because they can all go already for themselves.

The biggest reason is that you can enjoy being young. You should still continue to enjoy going to house parties and just being able to hang out with friends without having to go to the bars. Spend these months before you turn twenty-one just being able to enjoy life without feeling obligated to go out to the bars all the time. You have a great excuse when you don't want to drink on a weekday to just stay in. This being said it will be your turn to turn twenty-one soon.


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