Everyone has problems. Some hide it more than others and some have been dealing with them longer but we all have them and it helps to know that we aren’t alone. Here is what I have learned from my "daddy issues".
1. Try not to let it haunt you.
Growing up with a not-so-great dad, mom, whatever, can ruin a lot of things in a girls life but only if you let it. Hold your head high. Treat yourself with respect and live every day with purpose. The experiences you have do not define you.
2. It can make you different. Let it.
You control how your life experiences affect you, make it for the better. Life is a challenge but when you let it take a positive spin then you can come out on top. Try making a list of anything good that has or will come of the situation. For example, because I have daddy issues I know how to truly appreciate the men in my life that take care of me when my father is not able to.
3. Do not let it turn you into a person no one wants to be around.
Learn how to control anger/sadness/anxiety (we all cope differently). There are SO many different outlets to explore and express yourself with. There is one for you, just spend time to find it. Learning what makes you tick is important. Spend some time with yourself to clear your thoughts. If running helps you unwind after being in a stressful environment then have at it! Finding these hobbies that help you cope with the not-so-great aspects of life will pay off in the long run.
4. Do not label yourself as broken.
You are better because of what you have been through. I have never seen a strong person with an easy life. You matter, you are important, treat yourself as such.
5. Talk. Talk. Talk.
Talk to someone you trust. Often someone from the outside can see what you are missing. Even if the other person just listens it can help you clear your thoughts and figure out just what makes you so confused, angry, or sad. Talking doesn't always solve the problem but just getting it off your chest can relieve so much stress. You will be surprised at who you find have been through similar circumstances. Remember to find someone trustworthy because this conversation may be one that you don't want everyone hearing.
6. You will be fine.
This seems like a hypocritical thing to say because my life will never resemble perfect, especially when it comes to my relationship with my dad. But if you keep the statement, "everything will be okay" in your head then maybe, just maybe, it will be okay.
