To the single girl who thinks she will be single forever,
Trust me, you won't and I know it sucks just waiting around. People that know me are probably reading that first line and wondering why I am writing about this topic since I am "forever" single. I am writing this to announce to you that you might be just like me when it comes to relationships, which is not a bad thing... You know what that means, that you are not going to settle into a relationship with any person.
I am 23 years old, and I am still trying to figure guys out myself. I am also beginning to realize how many times I tried to force myself to like someone, wanting guys to like me or attention, or sadly, not seeing when someone was treating me bad and I deserve way better. However, being single has also taught me so much about myself.
I love being independent and doing things alone. I love hanging with my friends whenever I want. I learned to rely on myself when I feel alone. I learned some other items throughout my life with liking anyone. Don't change yourself for anyone, trust me, the person you will end up with will love you for you. Getting things off your mind to the person you really like can actually make your guys friendship better, and maybe they won't feel the same way or you both drift apart after awhile. I believe if you need to get things off your chest to the guy you like tell them. I am still friends with some of the people that I told them I like them. Maybe you drift apart because it can hurt one of you more than the other, but that's not either of your guy's fault.
Maybe you are single because you do not know what you want any more from a guy, or maybe you are waiting for someone who might never like you back. Maybe it isn't the right time with the guy you like. However, maybe love isn't ready for you right at this moment and that is okay. Timing is key when it comes to finding the right person. It has to be the right time for both of you; however, sometimes, it isn't and it sucks. However, the mystery to it all is that you never know if they will come back to you, so cry, laugh, and talk about it as much as you need too.
My theory is even if you lose that person and it was the wrong time, I am starting to believe maybe that person was not the right person, but that can change. I am more about being practical when it comes to love which is stupid because love is not like that at all.
Think about it, some women graduate college, get careers, and not find their love of their life until after they do all of that. It does not mean that you should not live your life and go out on dates with guys.
My advice always goes with your heart and gut. It usually knows what you want before you do. If you don't listen to it, it might be too late. But if you do, it could be the best decision you ever made.
