To the girl who thinks she has the best:
To set the scene, you at the beginning of a new chapter in your life; college. You meet a man that you think is the man of your dreams and you find yourself in a relationship starting out in your college career.
Everything is just as great as you expected in the relationship - you go out to parties with him, you guys hang out all the time, have study dates together, but then things change. You are through the honeymoon stage. You both grow to comfortable in the relationship.
He starts to cheat on you, starts to picks his friends over you, does not follow through with his plans like he used to and continues to do things you do not approve of, yet you keep going back to him. Why? Do you even know why? Probably not. Do you feel like he is all you deserve? You always deserve better. Do you think you will be lonely if you are not with him?
I would say you are just comfortable with him and do not want things to change, so you keep giving in. You act like you are okay with him ditching your plans. You basically let him do whatever he pleases, while you are silent.
You write it off in your head as it is just you being too sensitive. Stop blaming it on yourself. Stop telling yourself "oh, boys will be boys."
If he cared about you, he would do anything for you, follow through with his plans, and ditch the boys to hang with you.
When you do finally get the courage to say something, you back down when he apologizes and says he will change. 8/10 he is lying. He will more than likely go back to his old ways and act like he is not doing anything wrong.
He will act like it is nothing.
Well it is something.
I am here to tell you that this relationship is not worth it. You are worth so much more and deserve someone who will appreciate you. Starting a new chapter in your life is way more important than worrying about if “Chad” is going to hang with the boys tonight or take you out on a date like he promised.
Stop settling for the guy who does not think about his future. The guy who does not celebrate and praise you. The guy who chooses his college parties over you.
Yes, that scene is fun for awhile, but you have to grow out of it sooner or later. Eventually, the man who you deserve will appear. Move on from the guy you think you deserve, to the man you actually deserve.
