To the ones who always want to make others happy,
This quality of our personality can be a great gift. We can easily make friends while adding positivity and happiness into their lives because who does not love a person who makes them happy? We do not "kiss" anybody's ass, but we do enjoy to have the approval of the ones we love.
We always go out of our way to help our friends or even strangers out, but this quality of our personality can be a fault. Sometimes we can lose what our wants and desires are.
We can get so caught up in helping others achieve their dreams and tasks that none of ours gets accomplished.
When we realize that we put others happiness and opinions before ours, it is important to take a step back and prioritize happiness. We cannot always have others opinions before ours. Whether they are about our lives or anything else. I know we tend to keep unpopular opinions to ourselves because we do not want to upset anybody. But when we do that, we lose ourselves.
We lose ourselves in what everybody is telling us to do. We lose ourselves in what everybody else is doing. We do not exercise the amazing right we have to speak our mind and make our own decisions. We can struggle with this.
The bottom line is that we need to get over aiming to please everybody and just be ourselves.
It can be nerve-racking. We might fear that we will lose friends or the respect of others for our opinions and choices. We need to realize that the people in our lives that truly love us will respect our decisions and opinions; just like we respect theirs.
The people who walk out of our lives for not approving of us are people that need to be out of our lives anyway. Life is too short to have judgemental people in our lives. Do whatever you need to do to make yourself happy! That's the bottom line.
Sincerely,
A happy people pleaser.