To The Girl Who Needs a Guy To Make Her Happy
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To The Girl Who Needs a Guy To Make Her Happy

You don't.

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To The Girl Who Needs a Guy To Make Her Happy
Sussel Ibarra

The only person you need in order to be happy is yourself.

It's as clear and simple as this. When we become involved with someone it's nice. We feel beautiful, love, and wanted. Being in a relationship or simply talking to a crush can leave you feeling warm and fuzzy inside, and unfortunately, breaking up can rip those feelings right out of your chest. Even then, that doesn't mean that our happiness came solely from being with someone else.

I've met a lot of girls throughout my life that think that guys are the key to their happiness. That they can't be happy unless they are with someone else, and at one point in my life, I began to think this too. My first real relationship was in high school. I was head-over-heels in love but when we broke up, I felt as if I wasn't ever going to reach this level of happiness until I dated someone else. I dated casually throughout the end of high school, and I am not ashamed to admit that I love the attention I get when dating someone. It's sweet. Being called "beautiful" and feeling like you're the most important person to someone is special. But I began to confuse those feelings for my own happiness.

It took a while for me to realize that being happy didn't require me to have someone. That I could be perfectly, insanely, completely happy without having a guy. How did I realize this? In the only way I could, being alone. I had to isolate myself from boys and the attention in order to realize that the only person who can really decide my happiness is me.

You should never feel that you need to be in a relationship to be happy. You don't need a boy being sweet or someone giving you attention to be happy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone. It is when we're alone that we truly find ourselves. Yes, being alone can be scary. Nobody wants to end up alone, but we should never feel like we need to be with someone in order to be happy. We can be happy doing things that we like, being with friends, and trying new things.

Never feel like you need to be in a relationship to be happy because in all honesty, you might not even be genuinely happy at all. Take time for yourself and know what truly makes you happy. You won't regret it.

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