As we get older, we change, grow, and essentially grow apart from friends that we may have had since our childhoods. I was always told, "Your friends that you have in high school may not necessarily be your friends for life."

These girls were a part of my life since we were in elementary school and have grown up with me as practically my sisters so I thought when people said that, they didn't know me and my girls.

We were inseparable and these were the girls that were going to be my bridesmaids and all my "aunties" for when we were older and had kids. Apparently, that was just me.

Going to college, of course, would make staying close difficult for anyone but we were determined to manage and always keep up with one another. Commuting to school versus all of your friends going away to school was sad for all of you but we were sure we would stay close.

This sounds good in a perfect world until you're slowly pushed out of the group. Group chats seem to have less and less conversation, and you begin to slowly separate. I noticed it more and more but still attempted to stay apart of their lives but to my demise, it was not worth it anymore. For some reason, a wedge had been placed between us and I was no longer worth their time.

I wasn't a "real" college student because I commute and still live at home which somehow caused me to lose my value as a friend. I have learned the hard way that sometimes friends change and circumstances change.

For me, I just couldn't believe that girls that knew everything about me and were my closest friends practically sisters now could care less if they were a part of my life or not. The whole mantra "Not getting a message is a message in itself" is something that I have found to be 'straw that broke the camels back' for me. For people that you have been close to your whole life to not reach out or attempt to stay a part of your life is a strong pill that I guess I was not ready to swallow.

It took me a long time to come to terms with it and it is still sometimes heartbreaking for me to realize but there comes a point where there is nothing more you can do. I am the first person to be completely understanding that life happens and we all become busy. But there comes a point where if there is no effort what else are you supposed to do?

If you know that you've done everything that you could to keep your friendship alive and have nothing to show for it, you have to let it go.