To The Girl In College Who Never Feels Homesick, You're Not Alone.

To The Girl In College Who Never Feels Homesick, You're Not Alone.

Because sometimes your new home is just so much better.

Move in day slowly crept up and the amount of anxiety I had filled me. Tears and tears fled from my eyes saying goodbye to best friend, grandparents, and family. I thought I wanted to leave, but in the moment, it felt as if I didn't. The idea of leaving home was so scary to me, and I thought for sure Id want to come home immediately.

Home to me is waking up at 8am, getting in my car, driving to get a coffee at Marylou's, then coming back home only to fall back asleep till 11. Home to me is walking down stairs on a Sunday morning to smell the cinnamon rolls my dad has been cooking. Home to me is the door next to me being my sister, not a stranger. Home to me is taking a long hot shower at the end of the day, without shower shoes. Home to me is stepping outside and breathing in the fresh air of Raynham, not North Andover. Home to me is blasting music in my room without having to worry about if my roommate likes the song or not.

I was not ready to give up home.

After my parents left me on move in day, I didn't feel anything. I didn't feel sad, but I didn't feel happy. I didn't know how to feel. Being in a new environment and living with a person I had barely known for four months was a lot to take in and for once in my life I was numb.

I could hear crying down the hall of girls leaving their parents, but I didn't feel that way. I figured I was just so overwhelmed and needed to sleep the day off.

Waking up the next day, I still felt nothing.

The way my college works is we had orientation after move in day, and then classes started. While making new friends and talking to some friends I already had, I tried to figure out what everyone was doing for the weekend. When asked, most replied with “going home." I couldn't figure out why because I wasn't homesick at all. Actually, the last thing I wanted to do was go home.

The weekend came and my parents kept texting me asking if I missed them and all I could think of was no. Maybe it was because I still hadn't mentally told myself that I was at college, or maybe I was just adjusting very well.

Now, almost December I feel the same exact way. Most of my friends go home on the weekend, or if they are too far, they wish they could. I feel almost weird saying I don't feel homesick, but it's the truth. I'm not sorry for not missing home. For once in life I have adjusted to something so well that at first scared the hell out of me. I finally found where I belong, and for me it's just not home anymore.

Staying at college every weekend has forced me out of my comfort zone more than I could ever imagined. Whether I'm going out or staying in I still manage to meet new people every single weekend. College is the best time of my life, and I wouldn't trade a weekend for it to go home. All for what? To do what I usually do, sit in my room, alone. No. College is a time to push limits and try new things. College is not a time to go home every weekend sitting on your phone on a Friday night refreshing your snapchat stories only to see everyone else having fun but you. I did enough of that in high school, and will not continue down that path in high school.

So, just know if you don't feel homesick, and even the thought of leaving college for breaks leaves you with dread, just know you're not alone.

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15 Signs You Have Senioritis

Wondering if those last 3 months are realllyyy worth that degree

People always say, “College is the best 4 years of your life!” While college is a great time, it’s almost like having a baby and the baby is you. You get no sleep, you cry a lot, you depend on others to feed you, and you have no idea what you’re doing. So here are some telltale signs that you need a breather…or a 12-day nap.

1. People tell you how nice you look when you actually wear jeans instead of yoga pants.

2. You cancel your weekend plans just to catch up on all the sleep you’ve been missing during the week.

3. You say the words “I can’t wait to get out of here” at least once a day.

4. You have competitions to see whose dark circles under their eyes are the darkest.

5. Sleeping through the 20 alarms you set is a normal occurrence.

6.You calculate how many classes you can miss without failing before you even start on the homework assignments.

7. You constantly say, “I have so much to do!” and then proceed to binge watch Jane the Virgin on Netflix.

8. Apologizing to your teachers for forgetting to do your assignments has become part of your everyday routine.

9.You text people “are you going to class?” to see if you’re the only one who is slacking today.

10. People don’t recognize you when you actually wear makeup.

11.You wonder why you bought the book for class when you know you're not going to read it anyways.

12. You’re constantly running late…or as I like to call it, “making an entrance."

13. You forget how long it’s been since you showered.

14. You’re forced to do laundry because you ran out of all your yoga pants and t-shirts.

15.You start wondering if those last 3 months are realllyyy worth that degree...

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How To: Prepare For Mid-Terms

It's the most stressful time of the year.

It's that time of the semester again. The tests are beginning to pile up, the homework is non stop, and you don't remember the last time you had a free second to yourself. Midterms are upon us once again. I have test after test after essay after project. The work seems never-ending. Here are tips on thriving, not just surviving.

1. Study

This one is first and obvious. if you want to do well you have to study. The best way to study in my opinion is to write things down. That is the easiest way to memorize key terms or just any simple facts that will be needed for a test.

2. Be organized

Have a planner, and write in it. This the only way I am ever sane during the school year. I look at my planner every day to see what I have to do for the day and weeks ahead. It is also nice to be organized as a whole. Keeping papers together in folders for each class and notes neat and organized will make studying for midterms even easier.

3. Do not procrastinate!

This is something I am definitely still working on. The best way to prevent procrastination when it comes to studying is to take it a little at a time. A week or so in advance of a test, starting studying. Maybe a couple key terms, or a chapter a day. Your memory will strengthen, and the night before review everything you have already covered. Instead of cramming it all in the day before, you will recall all the material quickly and accurately.

4. Sleep

Another thing that college students do not often make a priority. It seems that everyone focuses on drinking coffee and trying to stay up as late as humanly possible. It is not healthy, at all. Get some sleep. Even if you are studying up late at night to put as much information as possible into your head, it will affect your mood the morning after. If you wake up with a headache after getting little sleep, it might be hard to succeed on a test compared to a good night's sleep.

5. Take a break sometimes

After a long day of studying, a break can be needed. A simple 30 minute break can help refresh your mind to be prepared to study more. Personally I like to watch Netflix. Any shows like Friends or The Office really help me take a break and not think about school for 25 minutes. I also like food breaks. Eating is a great way to gain some energy while talking to friends, and not worrying about studying.

6. Don't forget to be positive!

While a lot of work all at once can cause stress, think on the bright side. With a negative attitude, the work will never get done, and the studying will never be as successful.

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