Society places this small but damaging thought in your head that you will never be good enough, there will always be something wrong with you that even plastic surgery can't fix. I mean there is a word for a fear about being not good enough, it's called atelophobia. That is a sad thing that our society is so worried and consumed with not being perfect or good enough that we had to create a word for it; this fear I think is extremely prevalent in our young people, even I have dealt with it. We feel this fear throughout our life especially after you end a relationship, I honestly still deal with that yet I try to avoid it and move on. It's not easy, its absolutely not easy trying to make yourself believe that though he wasn't worth it someone else will come and be worth it. Whether that is earning your respect, trust, love or being the one who is constantly encouraging you to move forward following your dreams and desires. I think every girl dreams of finding their prince charming and living the happily ever after like every Disney princess movie, but that is not always the case.

You will constantly be told you aren't good enough for ludicrous reasons while acting not fazed but on inside you are doubting yourself. I remember there was a time where I was so upset and sad that I believed I wasn't wantable anymore, I screamed and sobbed so hard while my mom listened helplessly over the phone; I am sure it broke her heart to hear that, I am sure hearing your child crying horrendously can cause any parent's heart to break. I will forever remember what she said to me after, she said "I never want to hear you say that again." She told me that I am wanted by so many people and that person was stupid to not see that, it was his loss not yours. Since that time I continue to struggle to move forward and focus on myself, I have big dreams and plans for the next few years. I hope that those who read this understand that the world may say you aren't worth it or your not good enough but I urge you to throw those comments to the wind, let them have no power over you.

I am not saying that you will be immune to them, that would be a complete lie; I am telling you that there will be moments where you can't help it and become upset, but don't let let that little moment set you back for months or years. I have always struggled with this, by nature I want to make everyone happy or be good enough in my appears eyes, but over the years I have sometimes felt that I didn't do my job correctly and that really burdened me for some time. I eventually came to reason that I can't please everyone and that isn't my fault, if you are suffering or struggling with the same thing I encourage you to realize that for yourself. It may take time but I promise you the rewards are so worth it. Let that thought burn away forever from your mind and rise stronger from the ashes.