One of the more tried and true traditions in sorority life is the Big/Little relationship. It is one of those things you look forward to when you first join your chapter and then every year after as new cute little nuggets are added to your ‘family’. But what does it mean? What is a Big/Little relationship supposed to look like? Well, in my experience it is often oversimplified.

Going through recruitment I was told over and over at chapters, as a selling point, that their big sister was going to be their maid of honor, she is their best friend so much so that they sleep in each others bed every night, that the two of them do everything together all the time without fail, etc. And this is an exaggerated description of what is presented to the world in terms of what it means to be Big/Little: that from the second you put on that matching shirt you two will be attached at the hip.

However, not all relationships are like this. In fact, they are so much more than this. Moreover, each Big/Little relationship is different and expecting the relationship with your Big or Little to fit the stereotypical mold is a little absurd. Once you let that go, Big/Little can be anything you want it to be.

Your Big can be a mentor

She probably knows the ropes. After a year of learning how to balance school, life goals, a social life, and other activities with sorority life she can act as a resource for you. I know a lot of Big/Little relationships founded on an “I want to be like you” basis. This inspiring person that you look up to, as your Big, can help you grow and be the best version of yourself leading by example.

Your Big can be a stronger connection to the house

When you get a Big, it is another reminder that you are closely tied to the chapter you chose to join. They are an example of the common values that the chapter shares and a role model that can guide you through the nuisances of sorority life within your chapter.

Your Big can be your Netflix buddy

Hell yeah, the same taste in TV bonds people like no other. Binge watching Friends, Grey’s Anatomy, or Chuck (if you have never seen Chuck go watch Netflix right now because you have not lived) can cement a friendship and make for really great quality time spent together.

Your Big can be your close confidant

Everyone needs to talk things out. Whether it pertains to family, friends, boys, class, etc keeping things bottle up inside you is emotionally unhealthy. Not that your Big should double as your therapist, because she should not, she does really care about you and will be there when you need her most.

Your Big can be your party pal

There is nothing wrong with having a little fun. If your Big is your go to ride or die dance partner that rocks! There is nothing better than collectively making fools out of yourselves by dancing your asses off and being able to laugh about it later.

Even now, do not feel like you need to define your Big/Little relationship. These were just a few examples of what it potentially could look like. It can be a few or all of things. It might even be so unique I have not even thought of it! Enjoy Big/Little week, it truly is like Christmas, your birthday and any other gift giving holiday mixed into one!