The instant the words “long distance” are brought up, we are faced with negative words and shaking heads. Most people have this pre-made idea that long distance doesn’t work. They say it’s too much effort. It’s too hard. But, I disagree. A lot.
My best friend may tell me that I’m too much of a romantic, and that’s why I believe in such things, but I find no shame in believing that love can, and will, cover the miles. In the end, that is what I believe makes the world go around. Love.
I, myself being in a long distance relationship, can admit that it’s not an easy task to undertake. You are faced with the constant want to hug your significant other. You find yourself getting jealous of the other couples you see on campus, walking hand in hand. You miss your significant other and the moments that you used to lay in bed together doing nothing. So, yes, it is very hard. You are going through a new chapter in life, and, of course, you want nothing more than to have them standing right beside you. But, the thing is, they are standing right beside you. They may not be there physically, but they are there with you mentally. They are living with you through the moments that you share with them and the times you call them to tell them about the great test grade you just received.
Of course it’s scary. You’re standing in front of the person that you love, and you are handing them your heart. You are letting them hold the most precious part of your entire body in their little hands. You are giving them the power to let you love them and let them love you. It’s a little scary, but it’s a wonderful thing. It’s a beautiful thing. And, well, it’s worth everything you’ve got.
Being in a long distance relationship doesn’t make it any less special just because you may not be able to hold their hand any chance you would like to. But, in fact, I think that makes it more special. It allows you to treasure the little moments that you have together… watching your favorite TV series, eating a whole box of pizza, or doing whatever it is that you two enjoy together. I believe that there is something so beautiful about seeing two people come together when they haven’t seen each other in a while. There is something so awe-striking about the two. But, nothing can compare to the way that those two people feel in that moment. And, it’s that moment that should keep people holding on. It’s like you get to fall in love all over again.
Although long distance relationships are not for everyone, I think that they are always something to try. They can work, and if both people put in the effort for each other, they will. Because, in the end, relationships are not just surface level. They are not just about seeing the other person every day, holding their hand, and being able to go on dates three times a week. Those are the fun stuff, and of course it’s great, but it’s not the only thing that makes up a relationship. It’s about the trust. It’s about knowing one another. It’s about being open with the other person. It’s about loving each other, and letting nothing come in the way… not the distance, not the jealousy, and not the fear.
When the going got tough, they got tougher. They didn’t leave. They didn’t take the easy way out. They stayed put, they stayed by your side, and they didn’t give up. If there is anything that you can find comfort in, it’s that.
