The Amount of Likes You Get Doesn't Determine Your Value

The Amount of Likes You Get Doesn't Determine Your Value

You are priceless.

In these days where peoples' daily lives are surrounded by social media, many people often get too consumed with what's being portrayed on a screen.

I'm by no means against the use of social media. I think it can be an incredibly useful and beneficial tool. Skype and other avenues that allow for video chats can help unite people who are apart distance wise. Other platforms, such as Facebook, can be extremely important in keeping people together and reconnecting with others. Twitter is very important in spreading concise amounts of information and news internationally. Instagram is a wonderful way to share photos and keep track of what's going on in the people's lives whom we care about. And then there's Snapchat, a fun way to chat with friends whether it's a silly photo with a dog filter, a short video, or a typed message.

These, among many other social media platforms, have been extremely innovative and life changing. They can be used for so many positive, inspirational, and informational reasons. But then there are times where they can be life consuming and life destroying.

Growing up in this time where the majority of people are always on either their phones, tablets, computers, etc. I've come to notice and experience first hand some of the harmful effects of social media.

Oftentimes, people get too invested—and even a little obsessed—with the amount of popularity they have through social media. Some people begin to think that the amount of likes that they get on a selfie determine how beautiful they are and how valuable their lives are. People feed into comments that others leave on their photos. People think that their worth, importance, and popularity depends on the amount of followers and friends they have on these platforms. The amount of likes followers, etc. start to become wrongfully synonymous with power, purpose, popularity, importance, and value.

People sometimes get carried away with the constructed realities they see on others' accounts. Because people tend to mostly post about all of the good and exciting things that are going on in their lives, others view their lives as perfect and better than theirs. They start to compare themselves and their lives to others and start to sometimes feel dissatisfied and not good enough.

If this isn't an issue for you, that's a very good thing! For those who struggle with measuring their own value and comparing their lives to others on social media, I have a very important message I'd like to share with you. Your value and your self worth are not measured or determined by the amount of likes you get or the number of followers you have. Life is hard enough without feeling like yours is any less precious, equal, and important than anyone else's. Your life may be different, but it certainly isn't inadequate, boring, or not good enough. It is simply different. Everyone has their own unique life to live and story to tell. You are valuable. You are beautiful. Your voice deserves to be heard. The only person you should be comparing yourself to is well, yourself. It is good to find ways in which you can strive to be happier and be the best version of you.

So next time you post a picture, compose a message, and share a video, remember that the amount of likes and comments you get on it are insignificant. Post it for yourself. Others may see it, but that does not necessarily give it more meaning. It already has an unlimited amount of value regardless of the total of likes or anything else, simply because you and your life are priceless.

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Happiness is having the best aunt in the world.

I know I don't say it enough, so let me start off by saying thank you.

You'll never understand how incredibly blessed I am to have you in my life. You'll also never understand how special you are to me and how much I love you.

I can't thank you enough for countless days and nights at your house venting, and never being too busy when I need you. Thank you for the shopping days and always helping me find the best deals on the cutest clothes. For all the appointments I didn't want to go to by myself. Thank you for making two prom days and a graduation party days I could never forget. Thank you for being overprotective when it comes to the men in my life.

Most importantly, thank you for being my support system throughout the numerous highs and lows my life has brought me. Thank you for being honest even when it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for always keeping my feet on the ground and keeping me sane when I feel like freaking out. Thank you for always supporting whatever dream I choose to chase that day. Thank you for being a second mom. Thank you for bringing me into your family and treating me like one of your own, for making me feel special because you do not have an obligation to spend time with me.

You've been my hero and role model from the time you came into my life. You don't know how to say no when family comes to you for help. You're understanding, kind, fun, full of life and you have the biggest heart. However, you're honest and strong and sometimes a little intimidating. No matter what will always have a special place in my heart.

There is no possible way to ever thank you for every thing you have done for me and will continue to do for me. Thank you for being you.

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Not Having The 'Picture Perfect' Body Shape Doesn't Mean You Can't Wear A Bikini

All shapes and size are acceptable and beautiful.


Summer has finally come again and it's now the time where everyone regrets not working out to get their "perfect" summer body. I'm here to say that these summer bodies everyone has been talking about are an unhealthy way to look at yourself and can hurt one's body image. If you're a size zero, that's great for you. If you're not a size zero, that is still great for you. There is no defined size that is required to wear a bikini during the summer, and there shouldn't be these unrealistic society norms on who can and can't wear them.

My entire life I was never worried about my size or how I look in a clothing item such as a bathing suit during the summer. I had always maintained a small figure from being active in grade school all the way through high school. Now that I am in college with no daily or weekly (and sometimes even monthly) exercise routine, I have gained weight and started to feel self conscious in what I look like in certain items that show my stomach. I don't look like the swimsuit models that are posted all over Instagram and started to feel that when summer came along I shouldn't be caught dead in a bathing suit or a shirt that showed any part of my stomach. I was beginning to feel bad about my body image because I didn't have the body shape or size that is considered to be a "society norm" and let it get to me. This is when I knew I needed to change my mindset, and not my physical appearance.

Just because someone isn't a certain size doesn't mean they should be shame into not wearing something they like or makes them feel good about themselves. Summertime is all about being in the sun at the beach or at the pool and getting a tan and getting in the water. This things require a swimsuit of some sort. The size and shape of someone's body shouldn't put a restriction on what type of bathing suit they choose to wear, and no one should comment on how they look in it in a negative manner. For some people, it's hard to lose weight just as it is hard for some people to gain weight. Society is always making remarks about girls being "too small" or "too big" or comments that are similar to those and it's putting a negative effect on how women view themselves which makes it harder for them to have a sense of self love.

Let a woman feel good about herself in what she's wearing no matter her size and leave the rude comments to yourself. Whether she is a size 0 or greater, she is still adding beauty into the world. If you want to wear a bikini, then do it. Don't let the negative people in society harshen your summertime fun.

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