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It is one of those nights when I am tired, but for some reason, I can't seem to fall asleep. So, what do I do? I pull out my laptop, and I begin to write. Who knows where it will lead. It could lead to a killer article or something that does not make sense. I mean it is almost 2 A.M. In my mind, that's pretty late.
Anyways, let's do this thing.
Like many people, thoughts seem to pile up in my head at this time. It could be anything from a time when I was younger to embarrassing stories to wondering why I am "wasting" my time somewhere to thoughts about the future. All of these things come at me like a wildfire. One minute I'm thinking about what I want to do after college next thing I know I'm remembering the time I tried talking to a boy and choked on my spit.
The thought that is going through my mind as I write this is about the future. It's about the future of my fears. Let me explain. I have multiple fears. Some of my fears I can hide pretty well, others I am terrible at hiding. My fears may seem silly to some. While others might have the same fears. Shall we start?
1. My career
I don't know where to begin with this one. For as long as I can remember, my consistent dream job has been working in the world of sports, specifically hockey. A career in sports can be and is a challenging thing. The public eye is on you constantly. A poor trade choice? Fans are angry. Your team sucks? "Fans" are threatening to cheer for someone else if you can't get your sh*t together. You can be blamed for anything and everything. Whether you are the coach, general manager, owner, it does not matter. That's terrifying to me, but for some reason, I want to work for a team.
2. My family
Failing with my family, whether that be the family I was born into or my future family, it terrifies me. I have watched families around me fall apart and I have seen how it has affected them. Relationships have fallen apart because of it. I have heard people talk about how much they hate one of their parents because of what happened. I don't want that.
This could be a dumb fear. I'm not sure, but I fear time. With every minute that passes, I am just another minute closer to the end. With every day that passes that I am not accomplishing goals or dreams I have, I am losing precious time. It scares me to think of something horrible like "What if I die tomorrow because of something horrific?" or even worse, "What if I don't make it through today?" It's terrible, I know.
4. Forgetting precious memories
When I was younger, I had brain surgery. It is now much harder for me to remember things. I am truly terrified that I am going to forget things I will want to hold close to me forever, but I won't be able to. I am scared I'll forget about the little things that mean a lot. I'm afraid of forgetting about old memories that may disappear. I'm worried that I'll forget about something like my wedding day. That might seem out of this world, but it's a reality for me.
5. Saying "goodbye"
I hate saying bye. It is one of my least favorite things. Saying bye, especially to people I don't know when I'll see again, is a stab in the heart for me. I love my people so much. I love being around them. I love laughing with them. Thought of never having a hello with them again scares me beyond belief.
6. Leaving places that I love
Alright, let me start off by saying this- it takes a lot for me to love a place. It has to feel like home. It has to make me feel comfortable. It has to be a place I can go to and be myself. Thankfully, I have had and still have multiple places that are like that. I have also had places I could not wait to leave. I think that's why leaving places I love is so hard and something I fear so much. I am afraid I'll never get that place "back", for lack of a better term. I guess, I'm trying to say, it's like a piece of me is leaving as well.
These six things are just the start of my fears. Some of these might seem "dumb" or "ridiculous" to you, but for me, it's my life. These are the things that I think about the most. These are the things that feel like a pit in my stomach. These six things are parts of my life that mean a lot to me.
For a while, I thought I was an introvert. As I got older, I realized that I hate being alone. Being alone is a challenge for extroverts. We feel most energized around other people and we tend to dominate conversation in group settings. This is beneficial in social situations. The discovery of being an extrovert led me to pick a career where I can meet different people and help them out to the best of my abilities. There are so many qualities extroverted people have that can benefit themselves and those around them.
Most extroverts are able to smoothly carry on a conversation with others. However, extroverts simply like to observe people and listen to them talk as much as hearing themselves talk. Extroverts are those who enjoy meeting new people and making connections. This is a favorable trait for all social engagements and something that should not be taken for granted. Extroverts almost always have something to say, and it's difficult to keep quiet. Extroverted people are open books, so you'll never have a hard time knowing their intentions or who they truly are.
Extroverts get bored easily, so they always require a task to complete. It can even be hard to stay focused on just one task, so they try to multitask. For extroverted people, it can be hard to relax. This is why extroverts thrive around other people and have a difficult time when they are alone.
I hope this helped you to better understand their behavior and how to communicate with them. Extroverts and their good-natured amiability should not go unappreciated. Each person's unique character traits allow them to perform what they should. If you cannot identify whether the person is an introvert or extrovert, maybe get to know them better. It's never too late to make deeper connections.