The 5 Steps Of Grief After An Online Purchase Goes Wrong

The 5 Steps Of Grief After An Online Purchase Goes Wrong

We've all been there, you order clothes online and it's almost ~never~ what you actually wanted.


I recently had to order an outfit online for a disco-themed event for my sorority. After scouring the internet for days, I finally found the perfect sequin dress... only to have it be the most ill-fitting piece of garment I've ever put on my body. Repeat this process 2 more times and I finally found an outfit that works.... at Forever 21. Here's what you'll probably go through if you ever find yourself in this situation:

Stage One: Denial

When you first try the item on and you refuse to believe that it's actually THAT bad, you can't help but deny it. In this step, you probably stare at yourself in the mirror for 23 minutes (from 297 different angles).

Stage Two: Anger

At this point, you're thinking to yourself: "What the f**k???" You spent all this money, maybe even extra for faster shipping, and then it just betrays you like that... After this step, you rip the garment off and leave it on your bedroom floor for the rest of the day.

Stage Three: Bargaining

You really do try to make it work... You tell yourself things like: "Well, it'll work if I just cut this part off" or "I can just sew the straps so they're shorter" but you DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO SEW. Once you get to this point, it really, truly is over for you.

Stage Four: Depression

Yeah, you now know it's ~never~ going to work and the sadness of the situation sets in. You're probably also sad because you realized A) you wasted all that money and B) you still have nothing to wear. People ask you if you found an outfit yet and you're #Bitter.

Stage Five: Acceptance

There's nothing you can really do about it now, so you might as well try to sell your fashion mishap to Plato's closet and get your money back. Maybe this was the Universe's way of telling you that you would've looked really dumb in that outfit.

Sometimes this situation happens for the best and you end up finding an outfit cuter than the first one. Thank you, Universe. Also, I've definitely learned my lesson... I'll stick to going to the mall for an outfit.

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13 Summer Struggles Only Thick Girls Understand

Chafing. So much chafing.


Summer is a lovely time. A time of cookouts, swimming, and sunny weather. But if you're a " thick girl," summer sometimes brings more unpleasantries than it does for slimmer women. No matter how beautiful and confident you are in your body, it can bring some struggles.

1. The living hell that is shorts-shopping

Step 1: Find the biggest size the store has.

Step 2: (If you can even get those on): Realize your stomach is being squeezed into the top, your butt is falling out of the back and your thighs are having the life squished out of them.

Step 3: Realize why winter isn't so bad.

2. And dealing with them even after finding a pair that "fits"

Nothing like taking a pair of shorts home you remember fitting you okay in the store and then walking for 45 seconds and pulling them out of your butt or crotch 17 times. Truly a magical experience.

3. And every bathing suit you try on shows more skin than you'd planned

Even the most conservative bathing suit turns into cleavage-city and a non-cheeky set of bottoms turns into a thong. I promise, older people glaring at me in my sexual bathing suit, I didn't mean for this to happen!

4. Chafing. So much chafing.

No better feeling than four minutes into wearing short shorts realizing that your inner thighs are literally tearing themselves apart. Body Glide and baby powder are a thick girl's No. 1 necessity.

5. Loving rompers. Rompers not loving you.

Rompers are made with short and skinny girls in mind. Heaven forbid you're not short, and heaven forbid you're not skinny. Rompers are like a mystical article of clothing that, no matter what, always just barely doesn't fit.

6. Imagining wearing a sundress with a strapless bra and just laughing

Of course, not all thick girls are well-endowed in the boob department, but if you are, you understand how hilarious the thought of you wearing a strapless bra truly is.

7. And bralettes are a thing of fantasy

Once again, bralettes are designed for a very specific body type. One that I do not fall into.

8. Feeling like you need to constantly defend yourself for dressing like you want to

There are so many posts and tweets and just general ideals that people have that certain sized women can't wear certain clothing. You shouldn't feel the need to defend yourself for wearing a cute crop top or a bikini, but you will.

9. And always feeling looked at when you're rocking your swimsuit

Yes, I see your judging eyes, and yes, they are making me feel like shit. It doesn't matter how confident you are in your body, people looking at you like you just killed somebody just because you're wearing something typically made for smaller women doesn't make you feel good.

10. Did I mention chafing?

I just felt like something so horrible couldn't just be mentioned once.

11. Online shopping for cute summer outfits and then none of them fitting you correctly

There's always the dreaded "one-size-fits-all" for plus-size women. As if there's just one way to be plus-size. No matter how much they promise online that it'll fit well, it won't.

12. Seeing tiny girls complaining about losing their "summer bodies"

So many tweets talking about choosing food over a summer body. So many profile pictures of traditionally skinny women. I'm not saying that thick girls are the only ones who can complain about their summer bodies, and thick girls do not have a monopoly one not feeling confident in their bodies. But it is hard to see those posts knowing that those women would be glorified in their swimwear while you'd be gawked at.

13. The "you go girl!" comments on your oh-so-brave bikini photos

Compliments are nice, and positive comments while wearing a bikini go a long way. But the dreaded "you go girl" comment just seems so condescending. Just treat me like anyone else you'd see wearing a bikini. I promise, I'd like to feel like that.

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Why You Should Shop At Your Local Farmers Market

Skip the big chain food stores and go to the farmer market instead.


Three weekends ago I decided to attend Tuscaloosa local farmer market with the plan of buying a couple of items that will fit into my zero-waste lifestyle. When you're at the farmers market you will find items there that you wouldn't find at a chain food store such as a dozen ducks egg that was for sale. Or homemade soaps that had zero to the little wrapper and would have cost almost five dollars at Publix because it had no plastic wrap when it cost $2 or $4 at the market.

But really shop at the farmer market to support your local farmers and shops. More often than not these people are living off these sales or its just a side thing to have some extra cash. For the stores, your more than a dollar sign, you are a person who buys products and they will give you samples of products to try before committing. Which you don't see that often anymore especially as profit is the bottom line for many businesses.

Also, if you have at the grocery stores all those carts in the middle of the aisle as the owner looks at something farther down don't worry the walkways are wide enough for several and the carts are small. And there is no way to be blind-sided by that one person who thinks they are the only one as you have a full three-sixty view of everything there.

You don't have to go every week as I know it can be kind of expensive especially when it comes to certain items. But you should go at least once to see if the market is for you and if they have anything of your interest. Hopefully, this has convinced you to try the market as the saying goes, "Don't knock it til you try it."

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