1. You apologize for everything; even when you know it's not your fault

To avoid any type of disagreement, you find yourself saying "sorry" even when you're not sure what you're apologizing for. You're too afraid that your argument won't be valid, that they will disagree, and that you'll upset them for standing up for yourself. You'll swallow your pride and let them have the satisfaction of being right.

Because they and their feelings come first of course

2. "no" is not in your vocabulary

You're tired. You have an exam to study for, and you just finished crying. Because why? Well, just because that's why. But you're supposed to meet your friend for dinner, you promised your mom you'd call her sometime in between. And oh wait, don't forget to text him about an important conversation you were supposed to make time for. Instead of saying no to dinner, no to the phone call, and no to the conversation, you said yes to all three. You find yourself overwhelmed, overworked, and overbooked.

You don't say no because there's no room for disappointment

3. People frequently take full advantage of you, and you let them

You were young and your best friend told a joke. It made you feel bad, but hey, it made them laugh and feel good. Your mistake? You let them think that was okay. From that day on, you were the butt of the joke. This turned into you being the one that didn't get the couch at the sleepover because they all decided you were sleeping on the floor. Eventually, you were the one changing your schedule to match everyone else's, just so you weren't their inconvenience.

Unfortunately, you just couldn't build up the courage to stand up for yourself.

4. Holding onto mistakes is your specialty

Yes, we're human, we make mistakes. We mess up. Normal people acknowledge their mistake and move on. They continue living their life without looking back. But you? You analyze the situation over and over. You lose sleep at night thinking of all the things you could've done differently and the alternative outcomes.

But unfortunately, its too late. And you lie in bed watching the fan go round and round, just like your mind is.

5. You would rather hurt yourself, than hurt someone else

It doesn't matter if it's your best friend, a complete stranger, or even someone that stabbed you in the back a few months back and you're still struggling to get over it. Seeing them suffer, is almost worse than you suffering yourself. Putting them and their feelings first is just the right thing to do. So you do it, no matter how much it backfires on you in the end, how bad you feel, or how much your heart hurts.

Because it's wrong to let other's feel pain, even if you don't deserve to feel it instead

6. When "me time" seems absurd

Ya know when you finally have five, maybe ten minutes to yourself? There would be nothing better than spending those few short minutes doing whatever you want to do, whether that be catching up on the last episode of Netflix you had running or the few pages left in a chapter of your favorite book. Even scrolling through your Facebook timeline, and liking pictures of some couples kids that have absolutely no relevance to your life, seems selfish. Whatever your "me time" concludes of, it seems somewhat egotistical on some level. It makes you uneasy.

You really have time for yourself? Something isn't right

7. Making your own decisions based off what you want, and not what others want, often makes you feel selfish

Everyone needs advice in their life from time to time. But you? Yeah, you don't take advice too well. This makes you feel like you have to do what they want you to do because if you don't, you'll be looked down on in disappointment. Other's might think they know what's best for you, what will make you happiest, and what will most likely make you succeed in the future.

But do they, though? It's okay to trust yourself and your decisions. You'll surprise yourself, in that you know yourself better than you think

8. You hold onto relationships that don't fulfill you anymore

There's nothing wrong with letting go. You grow out of past relationships, both romantically and friendly ones. There are many reasons that people grow apart. Distance causes strain on relationships. One person might mature sooner than another. Values might be different, along with morals. But you wouldn't want to fail them, would you? In reality, you know this is okay...

But you'll shoot an old friend a text in a few months just for self-validation that yes, you do care about others, and you can't shake the fact of not keeping in touch with every human you have ever encountered

9. Others look at you as "weak"

You know you're not weak. If you were weak, you would not constantly be there for others. Sure, you may hesitate to put yourself first. But this does not mean that you are weak. You are actually stronger than most people, putting others, their feelings and their lives ahead of your own.

Because sometimes others need more help than you do. And there's a little justice in knowing you're not as helpless

10. You constantly need approval

You're basically a walking truck. You know the ones with the sticker on the back, with a phone number to call the company, to let them know how they're doing? Yep, that's you, with a sticker plastered to your back. Please tell me I'm doing okay. Please tell me that all my hard work is going to good use and making you happy.

Because sometimes you just don't know if you're good enough

Yes, you may do every single one of these things. But that's okay. It shows that you're human.

But don't forget to please yourself.

Don't forget to be yourself.

Remember you are a priorities.

You're allowed to come first too.