I'm Thankful For Long-Distance Friends

I'm Thankful For Long-Distance Friends

Two high schools and five colleges could never split us apart.

Making friends when you've always gone to the same school is relatively easy. Growing up with these people, you're bound to make a friend or two along the way. Luckily, I was able to make great friends throughout my years in high school. Some of the friendships I cherish most, however, were with people I never once sat in a classroom with.

Calling them "long-distance" friends may be a tad overdramatic, but when we first met on a 6th grade AAU basketball team, our mothers still had to drive us whenever we chose to hangout. Making the 45 minute drive to each sleepover and party seemed endless, and slightly impractical. Regardless, our friendships grew, as sporadic team bonding turned into sleepovers whenever we had the chance.

The team itself was extremely difficult, and we found ourselves frustrated and upset following practices. By enduring this together, our bond strengthened. We sought one another for support, growing our trust and reliance upon one another. Even when we felt like quitting, we stayed for we couldn't bare the thought of playing with anyone else.

Since then, our small group of five has celebrated birthdays, gone on beach trips, and anticipated the next free moment we could see each other. When I quit basketball, we stayed friends. When we went into high school, we stayed friends. Finally, we each got our licenses, and our parents no longer had to make the long drive to drop us off at one another's houses

They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, and in this situation I found that to be the case. The longer I go without seeing them, the more I cherish the experience when we are able to find the time. We can go months apart, but as soon as we are back together it is as if no time has passed at all.

Going into college, we are once again going our separate ways. Instead of two different high schools, we will now be scattered at five completely different colleges. Although we're excited by the prospect of day trips to see one another, our ease of visitation will once again revert back to our sixth-grade parent-escorted levels. Our long distance friendship is becoming even more long distance.

Yet, I don't find the distance daunting. Wherever we may be, I will always know that basketball gave me four forever friends. We've overcome shorter distances and greater lengths of time, and we can certainly do it again. What started as teammates turned to best friends and ultimately family.

Thank you, Julie, Gabby, Taylor, and Emily. Your friendship means the world to me.

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To The Best Friend Who Ghosted Me For Her S.O.

She picked spending almost every day with him over helping me through rough times and trying to save our dying friendship.


According to dictonary.com, the definition of ghosting is the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.

Ghosting is something that this generation is all too familiar with. It is something that makes me sick to my stomach, and I still cannot figure how all these people just “ghost” others who sincerely care about them.

I have had my fair share of guys or may I say, boys, ghost me.

It was rough but I have gotten through it, no big deal. Boys are boys, there are plenty more out there. Random friends along the way have ghosted me, it’s still just whatever to me.

This newly discovered ghosting that welcomed itself into my life is one that I don’t think I will ever be able to just simply be “whatever” about.

My best friend ghosted me. You might say that is crazy or ask me why.

This wasn't the typical ghosting though, I kind of knew what was going on. It all came down to one simple thing, her new significant other.

Yes, a new boy entered her life, so she exited my life.

I watched it happen right in front of my face, but I had no idea what I was in for.

It didn’t happen all at once. Our friendship went from seeing each other every day to only seeing each other once a week, if that. It went from telling each other everything to her purposely hiding things from me and blowing me off. I was hurt, but I never thought it would lead to where our friendship is at now. Long story short, we aren't friends.

I confronted her about it because I was not okay with getting ghosted by my best friend. She just ran and continued to run from it, and on top of that lie to me.

What hurts the most is that after YEARS of friendship, after going through hell and back with her, she chooses a guy over me. She picked spending almost every day with him over helping me through rough times and trying to save our dying friendship.

It hurts when a guy ghosts you, but it truly breaks your heart when your best friend ghosts you.

All I have to say to her is, I hope that he makes you happy and I hope that you two have a wonderful time together. Hopefully, he is a good one because he has big shoes to fill becoming your boyfriend and now your best friend.

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To My Distant Friend, We Don't Always Talk But I'm Here For You

I know we haven't spoken in a while, but you're still my best friend.

Dear Distant Friend,

I wanted to start off by saying thank you.

When I started college I thought I'd have so much time for my friends from back home that went to other universities but, I don't have as much time as I thought — classes and studying are overwhelming and I forget to check in or say hi like I used to. The daily conversations turn to weekly talks and before I know it it's been months since we've spoken.

I know we haven't talked in weeks or months, but wanted to tell you how much I love and appreciate you. We can pick up like no time passed and everything between us is the same and I am so thankful for that.

I'm constantly put on blast for not texting back or snapchatting back, but I promise I could never truly forget about my friends.

Having friends I know I can count on no matter what happens and no matter how much time has passed really keeps me sane.

Sometimes I am distant and sometimes I'll forget to tell you good luck on your math test or forget to ask how your day was, but you are always in the back of my mind and always on my heart.

Life gets overwhelming sometimes and it is totally understandable to not remember your phone is nearby and to make conversation, but I promise it means so much to hear from my friends a simple "Hey girl! Miss you! Hope you're doing well!"

We all have new friends and new teammates at college but don't forget about those friends you made in middle school and high school. They're just as important, if not more.

So again I say it, thanks for dealing with me popping in and out. Thanks for handling me when I go missing and when I forget to say that you're important to me.


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