Thank You, Mom and Dad, For Letting Me Drink In High School

Thank You, Mom and Dad, For Letting Me Drink In High School

I never want to be that drunk girl crying on the curb at 2 A.M.
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Thank you so much, Mom and Dad, for letting me drink in high school.

My parents are in the middle; they’re not strict but they also don’t let me do whatever I want. They set rules in place for me and my siblings, and we always knew there would be consequences for breaking those rules. That saying, they trusted me a lot in high school. I didn’t have a curfew, I could come and go as I pleased (if I told them where I was going), and they let me be a teenager.

I’m not a spoiled kid whose parents let me do everything I wanted.

I earned the right to that freedom. I earned their trust by keeping a job to pay for everything myself, by getting good grades and trying hard in school, and by always showing that I respected the rules they did make me follow.

Now, I’m not thanking my parents because I loved to get wasted every night and party all the time. I’m thanking them because they allowed me to test my limits in high school so that when I got to college, I wasn’t the drunk girl crying on the curb at 2 A.M.

One of my long-time friends grew up with very strict parents. She wasn’t allowed to drive until she was 18, she rarely could go out on the weekends, and she definitely wasn’t allowed to drink. Like most teenagers, she broke those rules on occasion, but for the most part, she was horrible at sneaking around and often ended up grounded. She is now a freshman at a small mid-west school where she gets drunk every night. All I hear about is how drunk she got the night before and all I can think is “It’s a Tuesday. What are you doing?”

She has gone crazy.

College is supposed to be a time where you let freedom ring and take advantage of no parent supervision, but that doesn’t mean you should drink your weeks away.

I knew this would happen. I can’t tell you how many people I have met whose parents were super strict in high school and now they didn’t know how to control themselves in college. I know how to have fun and still remember what happened the night before and can function the next day. Many kids who grew up in strict households struggle with their new freedom and don’t know self-control because they were always under 24/7 supervision.

If you’re this student, remember you are in college to study and get a degree. I’m not saying get straight A’s but focus on school more. Parties happen Thursday through Sunday and there is plenty of time to have fun then; that’s what the rest of us do. No one will judge you for not going out all the time, but people are judging you for your constant wasted state.

Reputations form easily and they are hard to get rid of.

Start college on a good note, please.

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How to Be a Better Millennial

Tips on How to Make Our Criticisms Our Strengths
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1. Check Your Privilege

A great way to try to be better is by checking your privilege. According to the University of San Francisco, privilege is "unearned access to social power based on membership in a dominant social group" (Walker, Poole & Murray). This usually has a negative connotation, but do not let that scare you. Being privileged only means that there are other people in this world that have not had the same advantages, resources, or experiences as you. Here are some questions that will help you check your privilege:

1. Are you Christian?

2. Are you straight?

3. Are you white?

4. Are you able-bodied?

5. Are you employed?

6. Was education easily accessible to you?

7. Are you male?

8. Did you grow up seeing people that looked like you on television & in film?

9. Did you grow up with more than one parent in your home?

By checking your privilege, you can better understand how to communicate with, respect, and help others. If you answered yes to some or all of these questions - you're privileged. But that doesn't make you a "bad guy." Instead, use your privilege to be a voice for those less fortunate than you and to learn more about the world you have not experienced.

2. Pay Attention to What’s Happening

Do not get me wrong - the world can be intimidating. But simply choosing not to participate isn't good enough. There are plenty of ways to be involved in what is happening around you without falling into the very aspects of the world that scare us. The best way to make sure you stay educated in current events is by subscribing to news that you're both familiar and unfamiliar with. Here are some helpful and accessible ways to get your news:

1. The News App on Your Smartphone - You can customize your news feed by selecting what matters mean the most to you. The app will send you push notifications about important events, discoveries, and stories as they happen.

2. Google News - You will be given the top headlines, your local news, and news tailored just for you based on your preferences.

3. Cable Programs like Last Week Tonight with John Oliver and The Daily Show with Trevor Noah - These shows will give you the rundown on what is happening in the world all while entertaining you. Both of these shows invite guests that are on the same side as the hosts and ones that disagree with them.

4. Use Your Social Media - YES, it can be used in productive and helpful ways! Follow your local news channels, reliable sources on social media like CNN, FOX, ABC, NBC, the Huffington Post, NPR, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, BBC, and many, many more. But remember, do not just follow people or sources that align with your beliefs.

3. VOTE

According to the Brookings' Governance Studies, only 50 percent of Americans from ages 18 to 29 voted in the 2016 Presidential Election (Galston & Hendrickson, 2016). However, this population has been and will be greatly affected by the results of this election. It is time millennials do more to participate in the election of their country's officials. Here are some ways to be better prepared to vote:

1. Pay Close Attention to the Campaigns - Keep a schedule of the debates, rallies, and any other events that can bring you more information about the candidates. Find the issues that are most important to you. Who supports them?

2. Check Your Registration Status - This website will help you register or check your registration status in your state. While you are at it, make sure all of your information is correct.

3. Be Prepared - Be sure to check the requirements for your state. Do you need to bring identification? Do you know where your polling location is? Has it changed?

4. Know Your Options - If the circumstances call for it, you can vote early, send an absentee ballot, or visit your local polling place. If you're out of the town you're registered to vote in, be sure to get an absentee ballot.

Remember... the Right to Vote is one of our most civil liberties. Don't give it up.

4. Stop Saying that You’re “Adulting”

One of the biggest criticisms of millennials is that we are lazy, unmotivated and immature. Is it not time we prove everyone wrong? A trend amongst millennials is to refer to any sort of mature behavior or action as "adulting." Well I am here to say: Girl, you are not an adult for going to the grocery store. When we use this term, we are undermining our abilities to carry out the simplest of tasks.

Contrary to popular belief - tasks such as buying groceries, paying your bills, cleaning your room, going to work, or going to the doctors when you are above the age of 18 is not called adulting, but being a human. In fact, if you refer to #1 on this list, these tasks make you a privileged human. So, stop acting like it is an accomplishment. It is what is expected.

5. Take Care of Yourself

No, this does not mean listening to Drake on repeat. Although, it could be part of your self-care regime. According to Mental Health America (2013), taking care of yourself is crucial to mental health recovery. As part of being a millennial, we are constantly under pressure from family, work, school, and frankly - the world. Without proper self-care, it is easy to spiral into a grouchy, unhealthy, unproductive, and unrecognizable version of yourself. Before you run off to Lush to buy a bath bomb, understand that self-care is more than buying material goods that look good with an Instagram filter. Here are some tips that can help you take better care of yourself:

1. Practice Good Hygiene - While we are busy with all of life's troubles, it is easy to forget about personal hygiene. Shower regularly, wash your hands and hair, moisturize, trim your nails, put on deodorant, and any other routines that help you be your best self.

2. Practice Self Love - Give yourself compliments. Occasionally treat yourself to your favorite clothing brand or restaurant. Take a look at yourself in the mirror. Take a selfie every now and then. Wear that outfit that you bought, but are not sure if you can pull off.

3. Read a Good Book - You get to decide what is a good book. Books can help us take a break from the world without getting sucked into a television screen. Books can also teach us new things, bring us to new worlds that aren't currently crashing down on us.

4. Take Time to Feel Your Feelings - I know, I know. This is not easy. But it is one of the most underlooked components of self-care. Suffering is natural and therefore, it should not be ignored. Let a good cry out every once in a while when it's needed. Do not be afraid to seek counseling for some of your problems. When we ignore our issues, and put them on the back burner, we are letting them go unresolved. By talking to someone, whether a friend, family member, therapist, trusted mentor, or anyone you can get an ear from, you are actively feeling your feelings. Also, take time to laugh. If you're happy or proud about something, brag to the world! Share your happiness and it will spread to others.

We do our best work when we are our best selves. Make sure you are taking the time out of your day to treat yourself with kindness and do what makes you happy.

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10 Creative Business Cards That Will Leave A Lasting Impression

Because life's too short to be boring.
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Business cards offer the perfect snapshot of your business – in one small square, they can highlight your contact information, describe what you offer, share your webpage, and more. What's even better than a regular business card are unique business cards that think outside of the box and make your company unforgettable.

While many companies such as Vistaprint and MOO offer free business card templates, these are usually pretty generic and lack a little something in the creativity department.

If you want to really stand out, it's well worth the investment to shell out a little cash for custom business cards that will set you apart from everyone else.

1. Edge-Painted

Make your business cards stand out with a small pop of color around that edge to make it easily recognizable in a pile.

2. Clear

Stand out by not standing out; a transparent plastic business card gives a more modern feel to your business card while being more durable than paper.

3. Edible

Everyone loves a snack and a business card that doubles as a quick-me-up will definitely leave an impression. Just make sure to write down the contact info first!

4. Accented

A bit of color or an embossed design will add a pretty spin to an otherwise low-key card. The result is simple yet elegant.

5. Plantable

Yes, you read that right -- you can actually have business cards made that can be planted! Great for environmentally friendly companies or for those with a green thumb.

6. Tool

Some businesses want functionality along with their contact info; keeping these business cards in your wallet not only keeps the info handy but ensure you have a helpful little tool on hand as well! A variety of options are available including rulers, letter openers, money clip, can opener, bottle cap opener and more!

7. Unconventional Shape

A business card in the shape of what you sell in bright colors will be hard to forget anytime soon. The best part? The possibilities are endless! Cars, cupcakes, shoes, jewelry -- if you can think of it, it can be a card!

8. Stencil Cut-Out

Whether it's words or your logo, a stencil cut-out is sure to stand out.

9. Slide-Out

A slide-out card adds a whimsical touch that's not seen very often. The sleeve or cover also has the added bonus of providing protection to make sure your card doesn't get dirty or damaged.

10. Metal

Besides being sturdy, the sleek contemporary look of a metal finish will elevate your level of professionalism.

Customize your card and have fun!

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