Dear Ex-Boyfriend,
Thank you. You might be confused by those two words but I mean it, thank you. You broke my heart and left me devastated for reasons I couldn't comprehend (or perhaps you didn't tell me at all because you're a coward) but you also taught me a lot, though not during our relationship, but after.
Because of you, I know what I deserve. While we were dating, I thought that all I deserved was to be treated as you treated me (which wasn't well). Since the end of us, I've learned my worth. I didn't ever deserve any of the times you made me feel bad about myself in general, or for doing something I truly wanted to. Now, I do what I want for myself and no one else.
Because of you, I know what I don't want. Damn well. When we were dating, I figured our relationship was perfect and that's as good as any relationship of mine could ever get. Boy, was I wrong. You've showed me I don't ever want to be with someone who is insecure or irrationally jealous. I know I don't want to ever be hurt like the way you unnecessarily and unforgivingly hurt me.
Because of you, I'm stronger. Yeah, you hurt me and I cried. I overanalyzed your actions and spent many sleepless nights. I creeped on your social media and envied the next girl you had, but it only made me even stronger once I realized you weren't worth my energy to be upset over. Now, I'm confident I can handle practically anything life throws my way and that includes your crap.
Because of you, I don't let a boy or relationship define me. I have lots of interests and friends. A guy isn't at all the only thing in my life right now and it isn't the most important thing. I balance my relationships with my hobbies and school. I work hard and pursue what I'm passionate about, despite any obstacles. That defines me. You don't.
Because of you, I'm closer with my parents and girlfriends. My dad hugged me, telling me you weren't worth it and my mom wiped away my tears (as she always does). My girlfriends spoiled me with love, support and ice cream. As a result, I've come to appreciate them just that much more. Those relationships are more valuable than our toxic one ever was.
Now do you see why I thank you? You may think I sound bitter but I genuinely am just so much more sure of myself because of the pain you caused me. It forced me to learn who I am, what I want and how to really live life instead of just existing. So again, I say thank you. Because without the pain you caused me, I wouldn't be who I am today.
Sincerely,
Your Ex-Girlfriend
