Thank You To The Best Friend Who Was Always There

Thank You To The Best Friend Who Was Always There

Some people think soulmates are just for romantic reasons, but I think I found my soulmate: in the form of a best friend, in the form of a sister.
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Thank you for all the memories we have and will continue to make.

Memories are funny things. They shape people and many say they change over time. The memories I have of my best friend, though, never change. As I sit here and write, I think about you and how we would talk for hours about nothing and about everything. I never met someone who understood me so well. You're the person I tell everything to and have no fear of judgement. You really are a part of my life and a part of my family. You aren't just a friend to me but rather a sister.

Do you remember the first time we met? We were so young, in third grade. We didn't know each other but I knew I didn't like you. I just came back from a stint in catholic school and you had replaced me in my friend group. I was so jealous of you. You were everything I wanted to be. Then the next year rolled around and our feud continued. All up until one teacher made us use a hat to cast a member in our plays we performed for no reason. You were chosen. I was not a happy camper. In retrospect, I had no idea how that moment would change how I felt about you forever.

We were enemies and somehow, we now have a twelve year friendship. Funny how life works, right?

Twelve years is long. You were there for every awkward phase, just as I was there for yours. I was there when you were super short and I'd use you as an armrest. You were there when karma was a bitch and all of a sudden you were much taller than me and I was the armrest (and still am). You were my first kiss, because I "needed to practice." I realize now we discovered our sexualities together. You were there when I decided that maybe I was asexual because I wasn't attracted to the kiss. You were there when I realized that wasn't it at all, that I was attracted to men but was curious about women.

You were there when my stepdad would get drunk and beat my mom. You never told a soul. Thank you so much for being there and keeping all of my secrets. Even when there was that break where we didn't talk. You held my life in your hands and you never used the darkness that was my life against me.

Thank you for being there when I was being bullied. I know it had to be hard being friends with me because it tainted you by association and quickly made you a target. You never cared though and you ignored when boys would make fun you for being around me.

Thank you for having my back and being my partner in crime. As I write this, I think of all our memories. Do you remember how we used to have stuffed animal fights and my mom would get so mad at us? Or how you would try to get me to watch horror movies and I'd cuddle with a teddy bear and a blanket pulled up to my chin. We never got through the first five minutes before I wimped out. Do you remember Junjou Romantica? We learned to be tolerant together, to be open minded together. We watched an anime about love, neither of us caring it was about two guys falling in love. We related to the characters. They were humans, just like us, their sexuality wasn't a thought for us because we were watching for the storyline. Them being gay wasn't even a thought that crossed our mind. We rooted for them the whole way, just like we would anyone else.

We had friends come and go though our little twosome. We had so many people enter our circle and when they left, there was always us remaining strong in our friendship to one another. We never stopped being friends because we genuinely love each other. Those people were just blinks of time in our friendship.

We still talk today. Maybe not as much as we'd like to but we talk. We live our lives but always have each other in mind. You are my forever friend. My BFFaeaeaeae etc. We may be polar opposites but you complete me. If you hadn't been in my life I wouldn't be who I am today. If you hadn't been in my life, something would have been missing and I would've felt that emptiness everyday until I found you. Thankfully, I found you young. You filled a piece of my soul that was empty. Some people think soulmates are just for romantic reasons, but I think I found my soulmate: in the form of a best friend, in the form of a sister.

Here is to the rest of our lives as friends because I know you will be there until the very end. I love you, baggie. Thank you for being a part of my story. Thank you for always being at my side.

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To The Best Friend Who Ghosted Me For Her S.O.

She picked spending almost every day with him over helping me through rough times and trying to save our dying friendship.
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Ghosting.

According to dictonary.com, the definition of ghosting is the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.

Ghosting is something that this generation is all too familiar with. It is something that makes me sick to my stomach, and I still cannot figure how all these people just “ghost” others who sincerely care about them.

I have had my fair share of guys or may I say, boys, ghost me.

It was rough but I have gotten through it, no big deal. Boys are boys, there are plenty more out there. Random friends along the way have ghosted me, it’s still just whatever to me.

This newly discovered ghosting that welcomed itself into my life is one that I don’t think I will ever be able to just simply be “whatever” about.

My best friend ghosted me. You might say that is crazy or ask me why.

This wasn't the typical ghosting though, I kind of knew what was going on. It all came down to one simple thing, her new significant other.

Yes, a new boy entered her life, so she exited my life.

I watched it happen right in front of my face, but I had no idea what I was in for.

It didn’t happen all at once. Our friendship went from seeing each other every day to only seeing each other once a week, if that. It went from telling each other everything to her purposely hiding things from me and blowing me off. I was hurt, but I never thought it would lead to where our friendship is at now. Long story short, we aren't friends.

I confronted her about it because I was not okay with getting ghosted by my best friend. She just ran and continued to run from it, and on top of that lie to me.

What hurts the most is that after YEARS of friendship, after going through hell and back with her, she chooses a guy over me. She picked spending almost every day with him over helping me through rough times and trying to save our dying friendship.

It hurts when a guy ghosts you, but it truly breaks your heart when your best friend ghosts you.

All I have to say to her is, I hope that he makes you happy and I hope that you two have a wonderful time together. Hopefully, he is a good one because he has big shoes to fill becoming your boyfriend and now your best friend.

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To My Distant Friend, We Don't Always Talk But I'm Here For You

I know we haven't spoken in a while, but you're still my best friend.
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Dear Distant Friend,

I wanted to start off by saying thank you.

When I started college I thought I'd have so much time for my friends from back home that went to other universities but, I don't have as much time as I thought — classes and studying are overwhelming and I forget to check in or say hi like I used to. The daily conversations turn to weekly talks and before I know it it's been months since we've spoken.

I know we haven't talked in weeks or months, but wanted to tell you how much I love and appreciate you. We can pick up like no time passed and everything between us is the same and I am so thankful for that.

I'm constantly put on blast for not texting back or snapchatting back, but I promise I could never truly forget about my friends.

Having friends I know I can count on no matter what happens and no matter how much time has passed really keeps me sane.

Sometimes I am distant and sometimes I'll forget to tell you good luck on your math test or forget to ask how your day was, but you are always in the back of my mind and always on my heart.

Life gets overwhelming sometimes and it is totally understandable to not remember your phone is nearby and to make conversation, but I promise it means so much to hear from my friends a simple "Hey girl! Miss you! Hope you're doing well!"

We all have new friends and new teammates at college but don't forget about those friends you made in middle school and high school. They're just as important, if not more.

So again I say it, thanks for dealing with me popping in and out. Thanks for handling me when I go missing and when I forget to say that you're important to me.

Sincerely,

I'm Sorry I Forgot To Text You Back... Again

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