It's Hard To Tell People That You’re Not Always OK

It's Hard To Tell People That You’re Not Always OK

It's important to let people in though.


I am not always okay.

Sometimes it is as easy as that, but other times, it's a little more complicated. It can be also known as I am fine and I am tired. In society, it is hard to always come across happy and OK all the time, yet it is even harder to tell someone that you're not OK in fear of them pushing you away for being unstable or mentally ill. There are a lot of people that I personally know who may say that they're OK but in reality, they are not. It's hard to tell people that you are not doing OK or that you need help, especially if you're someone like me who tries to always make other people happy before yourself. To tell people that I am not feeling well or having a bad day is hard for me. Since this is an issue for many people, there are many ways to tell people that you are not OK.

Personally, it is hard to tell people that I am not OK, but I have slowly found ways to tell people that I'm not OK. I have slowly found the courage to tell people straight up that I am not OK. It comes with time and it comes with finding yourself and what issues you deal with. Telling friends and family without beating around the bush that I was not doing OK was something I had to force myself to do so that I would not suffer alone. Other times when things are worse, I find myself having to tell people under the table or through a message that they have to decode. Those who know me well can understand when I am not OK because they see the signs and know what I mean when I say that I am OK with just a look in the eyes. I cherish those people when I am out of sorts and cannot push the words out of my mouth.

There are many instances where I tried to explain how I was feeling to someone, only for them to become confused or not know how to respond. Battling with myself was a common experience so when my boyfriend reminded me for the third time that day that I could tell him how I was feeling; I could tell him what was wrong. So instead of saying I'm fine, everything that I held back came flooding out and almost drowned us both because I had opened the floodgates. However, that instance has helped me open up more to telling people how I felt.

It's OK to not be OK. It's hard to be able to tell someone that you are OK, but it gets easier to deal with and it gets easier to tell people.

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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