How To Tell Others You Are Not Okay

It's Hard To Tell People That You’re Not Always OK

It's important to let people in though.


I am not always okay.

Sometimes it is as easy as that, but other times, it's a little more complicated. It can be also known as I am fine and I am tired. In society, it is hard to always come across happy and OK all the time, yet it is even harder to tell someone that you're not OK in fear of them pushing you away for being unstable or mentally ill. There are a lot of people that I personally know who may say that they're OK but in reality, they are not. It's hard to tell people that you are not doing OK or that you need help, especially if you're someone like me who tries to always make other people happy before yourself. To tell people that I am not feeling well or having a bad day is hard for me. Since this is an issue for many people, there are many ways to tell people that you are not OK.

Personally, it is hard to tell people that I am not OK, but I have slowly found ways to tell people that I'm not OK. I have slowly found the courage to tell people straight up that I am not OK. It comes with time and it comes with finding yourself and what issues you deal with. Telling friends and family without beating around the bush that I was not doing OK was something I had to force myself to do so that I would not suffer alone. Other times when things are worse, I find myself having to tell people under the table or through a message that they have to decode. Those who know me well can understand when I am not OK because they see the signs and know what I mean when I say that I am OK with just a look in the eyes. I cherish those people when I am out of sorts and cannot push the words out of my mouth.

There are many instances where I tried to explain how I was feeling to someone, only for them to become confused or not know how to respond. Battling with myself was a common experience so when my boyfriend reminded me for the third time that day that I could tell him how I was feeling; I could tell him what was wrong. So instead of saying I'm fine, everything that I held back came flooding out and almost drowned us both because I had opened the floodgates. However, that instance has helped me open up more to telling people how I felt.

It's OK to not be OK. It's hard to be able to tell someone that you are OK, but it gets easier to deal with and it gets easier to tell people.

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A Letter To My Freshman Dorm Room As I Pack Up My Things

Somehow a 15' x 12' room became a home.


Dear Geary 411,

With your creaky beds, concrete walls, and mismatched tile floors, you are easily overlooked as just another room we were randomly assigned to— but you were different. Inside your old walls, I have made some of the best memories of my life that I will hold on to forever.

Thank you for welcoming my neighbors in with open arms who quickly became friends who didn't knock and walked in like you were their own.

I feel like an apology is needed.

We're sorry for blaring the music so loud while getting ready and acting like we can actually sing when, in reality, we know we can't. Sorry for the dance parties that got a bit out of control and ended with us standing on the desks. Sorry for the cases of the late-night giggles that came out of nowhere and just would not go away. Sorry for the homesick cries and the "I failed my test" cries and the "I'm dropping out" cries. We're sorry for hating you at first. All we saw was a tiny and insanely hot room, we had no idea what you would bring to us.

Thank you for providing me with memories of my first college friends and college experiences.

As I stand at the door looking at the bare room that I first walked into nine months ago I see so much more than just a room. I see lots and lots of dinners being eaten at the desks filled with stories of our days. I see three girls sitting on the floor laughing at God knows what. I see late night ice cream runs and dance battles. I see long nights of homework and much-needed naps. Most importantly, I look at the bed and see a girl who sat and watched her parents leave in August and was absolutely terrified, and as I lock you up for the last time today, I am so proud of who that terrified girl is now and how much she has grown.

Thank you for being a space where I could grow, where I was tested physically, mentally and emotionally and for being my home for a year.


A girl who is sad to go

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What I Wish I Knew About Life After High School Before I Had To Live It

Life after high school isn't always what you expected it to be.


So you're about to graduate high school and you think you have it all figured out. You and your best friends are going to stay close throughout college and you're going to take those long road trips in college to see each other. Think again.

Life after high school isn't always what you want it to be. You think you'll miss high school, you'll always be close with your high school besties, and you'll have all this free time in college. That's just not entirely true. I personally do not miss high school. I don't really talk to anyone I went to high school with on a regular basis, and I'm totally OK with that. I have friends in college that I believe will be my lifelong friends whereas my friends in high school didn't make an effort to keep in contact with me after high school.

I haven't had all the free time I've dreamed of in college, because I'm busy with school and meetings. When I'm not doing homework, I'm making sure the rest of my life is in order and all my stuff for school is in line. I'm not the crazy party girl that people think I am because of where I go to school. I'd rather sit in bed and watch Netflix than go out with my friends. I'm not a 4.0 student, but I work so hard in my classes just to make sure that I'm passing. I study a week before tests and still don't always make A's. And that's OK. It's not what I expected during my college years, but it's what's happening, and most of my friends are the same way.

Anne Marie Bonadio

Just know that life in college isn't all easy, breezy, and beautiful like Covergirl. It's hard and you will struggle whether it be in school or with your friends. College isn't always complete freedom. You'll be tied down with school and life and you won't have the free time that you always imagined. You won't always be best friends with your high school friends. You won't be taking those road trips because you won't be able to afford them, and if you're like me, your parents won't let you.

College won't be exactly what you dreamed it'll be, but it'll be some of the best years of your life.

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