Tell Your Friends You Love Them

Tell Your Friends You Love Them

"I wish that I had let out a few more I love you's and given more hugs to the one friend I didn't realize I wouldn't see again."

In my experience, friendship is one of the most complicated things to exist because sometimes they end and sometimes there is no true reason behind it. Life is a tricky thing in general, and people change. No matter how close you are at a point, sometimes you lose touch and different things come into each of your lives. It doesn't always have to be a unsolvable fight or some sort of betrayal.

A funny thing happens to you when you grow apart from someone who you used to be so close with. You find yourself thinking of them every once in a while when you're reminiscing and a fond memory peeks into your brain. A good portion of the time that this happens, however, the thought comes and goes. You might not reach out. As we get older, our time becomes more and more consumed. As we get older we get more friends and it becomes harder and harder to find the time for everyone while also having some for yourself.

In the beginning of the year I lost a friend that I used to be very close with. Although it was one of the hardest things I've had to deal with, I'm grateful for the time that I spent with him. I have my memories and although I wish that I had more, and I wish that I could make more, I'm thankful I have the ones that I do.

After he passed, I was overcome with guilt. I felt guilty that I didn't give him more of my time. I felt guilty when I sat down and thought about the fact that I couldn't remember the last time he was able to confide in me. I felt guilty that when an image of him popped into my brain, I didn't reach out to tell him that I was thinking of him. I especially felt guilty for feeling guilty too late.

There were a few times that I did reach out to see how he was doing and let him know that I missed him. He came to visit me once or twice at my school, but as time passed the messages seemed to get sent less and less. Visits stopped and plans that were made never seemed to happen.

I will always consider him one of the best friends that I've had, because the memories and experiences I shared with him were ones that I'll never forget. I have an entire unforgettable summer worth of memories that will never fade. Even before he passed, I knew that summer was the best one I'd ever have, and now even more so.

My friends and I have a way of showing affection without showing affection. We make fun of each other but we know that we care. I went so long without questioning this because it was just the way that things worked. I remember a time when I was twelve that I used to hug all of my friends before going home for the night and we said I love you more times than necessary.

Although we don't need to do all of that anymore to validate our friendship, I wish that I had let out a few more I love you's and given more hugs to the one friend I didn't realize I wouldn't see again.

If his death taught me anything, it was to make sure the people around me know that I care about them. Because of this, I've started saying a quick "love you" before hanging up the phone with my friends. I've started giving more hugs. I try to keep in touch with all of my friends, old and new, and set time apart for all of them. I let the people around me know that I care about them, even if it is in small ways.

The truth of the matter is that his death won't be the last one I experience and if someone I love is leaving this Earth, I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure that they know I care about them. Death is the most inevitable thing in this world, but it hardly ever comes as expected. Treat everyone you love as if one of you will be gone tomorrow. Don't let things go unsaid because you might never get the chance to say them again.

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Platonic Relationships Are Just As Valid As Romantic Relationships

Your platonic friends deserve just as much love.

When people think of "relationships," they often think of two people who are in love and are dating; and often the things that come with it like flowers, chocolates, and dinner dates.

Society likes to tell the world that their lives will not be worth living unless they are in a romantic relationship, and it makes young teenagers feel insecure because they don't have a significant other. This can be a harmful mindset to have because nobody should feel insecure about not having a significant other. However, everyone should feel grateful for platonic love.

There have been many articles all over the internet entitled things like "Can a man and a woman be just friends?" and in my humble and honest opinion, I think those are some of the dumbest articles ever to be written on the internet.

All I could think to myself was "of course a man and a woman can be just friends! Are these articles for real?" I just couldn't stomach what many of these articles were saying, because in many ways, being in a platonic relationship can be just as rewarding, if not more, as being in a romantic relationship.

The simple truth is, a guy and a girl can be friends; but since society pushes romantic relationships on everyone like it's nobody's business, many people, especially teenagers, dismiss platonic love as "nothing special," and feel bad whenever they don't have a romantic partner in their lives. It has made a negative impact on our society because of this, and this is the type of thought that desperately needs to be unlearned by all.

Having a romantic partner is not a bad thing by any means. I love seeing my friends in happy romantic relationships with people they love. It really does make me happy. What bugs me is how many people don't value platonic love in the same way, when it deserves just as much value as romantic love. I don't like seeing singles being bitter about seeing happy couples everywhere because they don't have a significant other of their own. What I'm trying to say is that whether you're in a romantic relationship or not, the relationships you have with your platonic friends are just as valid.

And if you don't have a significant other, that's perfectly okay. You are not any less valid just because you're not in a romantic relationship. Having platonic friends are just as valid, and your relationships with them are just as valid and should be valued. Whether someone is in a romantic relationship or not, everyone has platonic relationships, and they deserve just as much love and value as romantic ones.

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Yes, You're Still 100 Percent My Best Friend Even Though You Go To A Different College

I can always count on you.

Dear You,

Our first year of college is closely coming to an end, and let me tell you, it has been different without you by my side. There's always things that I see go on around campus here and think to myself that I wish you were there to see it. It's crazy how we went from seeing each other every day to maybe once or twice every 3 months.

You have helped me through some of the lowest points in my life and I'll forever be grateful for that. I can truly count on you for anything. You know exactly how to cheer me up and how to make me laugh when I'm feeling down. You have made me want to be apart of this earth.

I miss our dates to the beach, going to the park and watching the sunset, grabbing snow-cones and so much more. However, I already know that once summer comes again, we will be able to experience all of those again. We have so many memories throughout our life together that I know I'll cherish forever. I can't thank you enough for the endless laughs and smiles. Thank you for blaring and enjoying the same music as much as I do. Thank you for letting our friendship still remain this strong even though we are 200 something miles apart.

You're the type of friend who I want in my life for eternity. I can't wait to have you by my side as one of my bridesmaids when I eventually get married. I know I will be telling my kids all about you in the future on how great of a friend you were to me and hopefully you'll be there to be apart of their lives as well. I already know wherever we end up in our future, I'll always have a piece of you in my heart with me at all times. I love you with all that I have and already am counting down the days until I see you next.


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