Tell Your Friends You Love Them

Tell Your Friends You Love Them

"I wish that I had let out a few more I love you's and given more hugs to the one friend I didn't realize I wouldn't see again."
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In my experience, friendship is one of the most complicated things to exist because sometimes they end and sometimes there is no true reason behind it. Life is a tricky thing in general, and people change. No matter how close you are at a point, sometimes you lose touch and different things come into each of your lives. It doesn't always have to be a unsolvable fight or some sort of betrayal.

A funny thing happens to you when you grow apart from someone who you used to be so close with. You find yourself thinking of them every once in a while when you're reminiscing and a fond memory peeks into your brain. A good portion of the time that this happens, however, the thought comes and goes. You might not reach out. As we get older, our time becomes more and more consumed. As we get older we get more friends and it becomes harder and harder to find the time for everyone while also having some for yourself.

In the beginning of the year I lost a friend that I used to be very close with. Although it was one of the hardest things I've had to deal with, I'm grateful for the time that I spent with him. I have my memories and although I wish that I had more, and I wish that I could make more, I'm thankful I have the ones that I do.

After he passed, I was overcome with guilt. I felt guilty that I didn't give him more of my time. I felt guilty when I sat down and thought about the fact that I couldn't remember the last time he was able to confide in me. I felt guilty that when an image of him popped into my brain, I didn't reach out to tell him that I was thinking of him. I especially felt guilty for feeling guilty too late.

There were a few times that I did reach out to see how he was doing and let him know that I missed him. He came to visit me once or twice at my school, but as time passed the messages seemed to get sent less and less. Visits stopped and plans that were made never seemed to happen.

I will always consider him one of the best friends that I've had, because the memories and experiences I shared with him were ones that I'll never forget. I have an entire unforgettable summer worth of memories that will never fade. Even before he passed, I knew that summer was the best one I'd ever have, and now even more so.

My friends and I have a way of showing affection without showing affection. We make fun of each other but we know that we care. I went so long without questioning this because it was just the way that things worked. I remember a time when I was twelve that I used to hug all of my friends before going home for the night and we said I love you more times than necessary.

Although we don't need to do all of that anymore to validate our friendship, I wish that I had let out a few more I love you's and given more hugs to the one friend I didn't realize I wouldn't see again.

If his death taught me anything, it was to make sure the people around me know that I care about them. Because of this, I've started saying a quick "love you" before hanging up the phone with my friends. I've started giving more hugs. I try to keep in touch with all of my friends, old and new, and set time apart for all of them. I let the people around me know that I care about them, even if it is in small ways.

The truth of the matter is that his death won't be the last one I experience and if someone I love is leaving this Earth, I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure that they know I care about them. Death is the most inevitable thing in this world, but it hardly ever comes as expected. Treat everyone you love as if one of you will be gone tomorrow. Don't let things go unsaid because you might never get the chance to say them again.

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Frat boys are a species of their own and here are some exciting gifts they will be ecstatic to receive!

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What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

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Whats better than one beer? Six beers! This fashionable camouflage accessory can be used for tailgates, beach days, formals and everything in between.

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3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

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4. The American Fraternity book

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5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

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Being Friends With Someone At College Doesn't Mean Helping Them With Every Assignment

While it isn't fair to leave your friends hanging, it also isn't self-serving or intelligent to hold their work over your own.

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I like to write. But I don't like to edit what my friends write.

Throughout high school, but even more pertinent now that the omnipresent god of Grade Point Average (GPA) has been formed over our heads, my friends have felt it necessary to request my assistance on every paper they've written. I'm not a bad guy. I'm thankful for my friends, both what they mean to me and what they've done for me, but I'm also your typical college student. I'm up till 3 a.m. each night doing work of my own and study crashing for midterms. While it isn't fair to leave your friends hanging, it also isn't self-serving or intelligent to hold their work over your own.

Taking this into account, is it fair to ask your friends for help? In theory, yes. From the very first few steps of our childhood, we learn that friends are meant to help each other. A good friendship is built on the grounds that we are meant to hold each other up, sympathize for each other, stand by each other's side, and empathize with each other in times of tragedy.

Friendship is something humanity is lucky to have. Moving on from childhood, the brief period between senior year of high school and freshman year of college is the time period where self-inquisition and analysis of our various friendships are perhaps most prominent. Looking back, I think most of us can realize that friendship makes us who we are. Though cliché, the decision to choose our friends is real. Our friendships are truly a reflection of ourselves and can become a way that we can express ourselves indirectly.

Our very first few days at college are spent attempting to build these relationships, meeting new people who will hopefully remain our friends for years. So while the need and enjoyment present through friendship is readily apparent, does this connection justify our need to help our friends even when our own workload matches their own? In reality, no. For many, including myself, it can be quite difficult to tell our friends "no." Instead, we allow ourselves to say yes to editing two friends and our roommate's expos final draft and are up till 2 a.m. on a Thursday night when we have an 8 a.m. in the morning. So, while asking your friends for help is totally acceptable, their response as a "no" is totally acceptable as well.

No can be difficult to hear, but understanding your friends isn't. Though it might aggravate you that I don't want to spend my Friday night checking your essay's grammar or studying with you through the bio I took last semester, you have to understand space within a friendship, and why it's necessary. A great friend may study till 4 a.m. with you, but a great friend might also go out and come back with a coffee to help you fight through the late-night struggle. Friendship isn't about what we get, but rather about what we give. And first we must give to ourselves what we can, whether that means replying to our friends with a resounding "no" or "yes," and give to them what we can second.

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