Tell Em' Boy Bye

Tell em' Boy BYE

Why you're worth more than a simple text or late night snapchat.


Recently, I've really been thinking about the fact that dating and talking to one another has been revolutionized by social media and our smart devices.

Almost every weekend, it never fails, I'll get a 1 AM snap from a boy saying something along the lines of, "hey what's up want to hang?". While I know that their intentions might not always be bad, I began to realize that I'm worth way more than that.

What ever happened to calling a girl or texting her with intentional plans?

What ever happened to hanging out earlier than 9 PM at night?

After a series of texts and snapchats from this boy, I had to hit him with the boy, BYE.

We as girls have to stick together and realize that we are worth way more than a simple snapchat or quick, " u up?" text from that guy that can never seem to muster up the strength to ask you to hang out as a real man should.

Far too often, we have entertained late-night snapchats with no real intention of true, raw, human interaction.

Social media has created a world of lust and has forced us girls into the mindset that tells us that we're never going to be good enough for a boy to treat us like they really ought to.

Man up.

Don't snapchat a girl and ask her what her plans are for the weekend.

Call her. Text her intentionally.

And girls, if a guy isn't willing to be intentional in the way that he plans things with you or checks up on you, tell em' boy, BYE. Just like I did.

We must come to the point when we realize we are worth more than a late night snapchat or text asking us what our plans are for the night.

We accept the love we think we deserve, so let's start setting the bar higher.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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Goodbye School, Hello Real World

I'm ready for ya!


It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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