This is one of my favorite TedTalks, probably because it applies to me. But also because it overthrows one of the most accepted notion in our culture: the power of talking.
Cain introduces her subject by depicting her 9-year old self, a book-loving introvert, at a summer camp with high levels of energy and enthusiasm. By invoking this image of group chants and constant activities, we see how someone less inclined to participate in them feels. And how others view her: odd, abnormal.
But it's true. We don't really talk about it, funnily enough, but introverts are constantly "passed over" when compared to those more outgoing, with charisma, as Cain puts it. Teachers qualify the ideal student as extroverted, and job applicants stand out when they make an effort to talk, or when, it comes naturally.
The thing is, as Cain puts it, introverts aren't "shy". Some might be, but it's simply the way we respond to stimulation; instead of actively seeking it in conversation and communication, we'd rather it be kept to certain level, and have our alone time.
And what's so bad about being alone? Often, as it applies to me, it's when we get the best work done, apply our creative instincts, and come up with solutions and inspiring visions. Most of the world's greatest thinkers and leaders, actually, are introverts: Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi. They don't crave the spotlight, but have ideas and confidence in their abilities to truly make a difference.
Great thinkers may be thought of as a "thing of the past", but it may not be simply because we've outgrown them. Most thinkers thought alone, climbing to mountain peaks or bell towers to achieve that similar level of inspiration and genius we admire today. But today? Being along is traded for being in a crowd, or better yet, leading a crowd. When people think of a leader, they automatically imagine someone extroverted, charismatic, who loves to talk. Don't worry, I did too.
And when I pushed myself to talk, it came with some results: minor positions in an organization, a limited audience. But it was so awkward, so forced, and it required a solid pep talk each time. However, once I embraced being an introvert, in all its quirks and idiosyncrasies, I realized the power I had by simply sitting back and listening, to others and myself. I found that contributing innovative ideas was my strength, utilizing my creativity to the fullest and inspiring those around me. And now, I no longer feel left out, looked down upon. Because I have something to contribute as well.
As do each and every one of you. Life's not all talk:)
