Life is such a complexity during these modern days, we often stress ourselves too much. People seem to have forgotten how to respect and love one another and it really has devastating effects on society. Without love, we become heartless. Without a heart, we forget remorse for the things we do. Without remorse, evil dwells within our hearts.
You may not be an evil person, but can be well on your way without realizing it. Before you realize it, it may be too late for you, and evil ways just seem natural and even more okay than before. When wrong doings begin to seem more okay, the next-level of bad in us, begin to develop. It's true that there is no rest for the wicked, as it has begun to consume this modern world of which we live and it only seems to get worse with time.
These days, there is a lot of conflict in relationships as people are becoming more about "I don't have to change for nobody- they don't have to like me." Well, true. And they likely won't like you, but you must understand that if we don't work on ourselves then we become worse than our peers. You're right, you shouldn't have to change for anybody, you should change for your own self.
I would guesstimate about eighty percent of our stress and drama in our lives, are due to our own actions and/or the the mindset we have. We are quicker to complain and blame others, than we are to take a look in the mirror. Why is that? It's mainly because we don't want to believe that our practices are the decay of our own upholstery and then we begin to rot from the inside.
Relationships these days are becoming more favorable to one, or "lopsided." Just because you've been hurt or cheated on, you have the right to treat your significant other with hatred and disrespect? Answer me this: Who do you know that has never had their heart broken before? Many of us have, but it gives nobody the right to act in such a manner that you're hurting others that do not deserve it. None of us deserve it.
If you have inner demons to battle with, you should remain single and avoid relationships until your issues are resolved. The next person will not deserve your disrespect or have to put up with your attitude just because someone else hurt you. Just because you've been hurt, doesn't mean you have an excuse to become a monster inside. You're stronger than that. All of us are, we just have to find it within ourselves to live and let die.
We have to begin rebuilding our souls. We do this by learning again to love and most importantly, learning how to let ourselves be loved, as this causes love to pulse from your pores, like radiation. I must point out- we learn how to be loved, by allowing others to love us. Not under your own conditions, but under theirs. Remember, they owe you nothing. You're not a god/goddess born of the highest power, but give them the chance to treat you as if you were. Expect nothing from them and you will be most appreciative of their efforts.
Of course, there are certain situations that just cannot take place while in a relationship and that should not be tolerated. But fear not, you'll survive if it still doesn't work out. You know why? Because you're stronger and by practicing becoming a better person, your life will have more purpose and more meaning, less to be stressed about. Even though stress will always exist, it's your job to set the limitations.
Practice speaking softly. Yes I know, not all of us use our inside voices but it's important to control the language we use and the way we word things. Be careful about this, as it can set the wrong vibes immediately. Practice this and it will become the new you. It doesn't mean you have to change, it just means you are becoming a better, well-rounded person, so to speak. The core of your spirit and personality still remains. Remember-- practice makes perfect.
Eliminate the most dramatic things in your life. If someone continually sets off your temper, block them from your life. Block their cell numbers, their Facebook profiles or Twitter. Any pages that post mean things that send negative vibes, even if it makes you laugh, unfollow it. As it can create a twisted, evil sense of humor inside you that you don't realize is forming. Good, clean fun is all you really need. Enjoy simplicity.
Follow pages on Facebook or Twitter that send positive energy. Surround yourself with people that provoke the best in you, that inspire you to be better. Sometimes those old friends we've had for years, can be the death of what humane senses we have left in us. So, do not hesitate to distance yourself. It doesn't mean they have to become strangers, but it will certainly help you stay positive if they're negative people.
The last thing you should practice is simple acts of kindness. This is a seriously effective practice, that I've found brings so much satisfaction inside. If someone is about to come through the door after you, hold it open for them. You really have no reason to shave a few seconds off your door entrance time anyway, right?
Life is not a marathon- slow down and give to others. If you see a homeless person, drop some money in their lap. Don't post it on a Facebook video to make yourself seem a good person, because that is often the opposite. A truly good person is good when nobody is around to notice it. No matter if you believe in God or karma, or both, one way or another, your good deeds may come back to you. Even if not, the feeling you get inside from making someone happy and knowing you gave them a better day, is priceless.
Sew the seeds of which you've wished they'd have sewn. In other words; treat people in ways that would make you happy, had they have treated you in such a way. Practice this and I guarantee, the vibes you have bestowed upon others will eventually be brought back to you one day when you need it, one way or another.
It may be a helping hand, a hug, or the most heartfelt, motivational speech you've ever heard. Nonetheless, all your good deeds will mean something to someone down the line. And you will have become a much, much better person. You will have learned to love and be loved, and present yourself with a respectful attitude - limiting your stress levels as each day passes. Welcome you to the new you.
