I love good music and the other day I had a revelation as I was jamming out to "Love Story" by Taylor Swift. I belted out the familiar lyrics that had imprinted themselves into my mind back when love stories were things of whimsey and giggles shared during sleepovers. I realized that though the lyrics are so familiar to me I could sing the song sans music with the exact same cadence and timing; I didn't actually really agree with what they represent.

Don't get me wrong I absolutely love listening to Taylor and I think that her music is incredibly catchy.

However, the lyrics create a world in which we're meant to be saved, in which we can't be happy unless we're knocked off our feet by a romance so special and unique it crescendo's with a secret meeting in a field.

I know the song is fictitious, crafted to represent the place of deep longing and desire that I would argue every woman yearns after. A romance that changes us for the better. That comes in and corrects the places we fall at. A romance that can rescue us from loneliness and fear.

It hit me during the bridge when Taylor sings: "Romeo save me, I've been feeling so alone... (he) said marry me, Juliet, you'll never have to be alone." freedom from loneliness will never come from another human.

It's no person's responsibility to save another from loneliness. We're all fallen, broken people and carrying another's loneliness is too heavy a calling for any of us. Yes, we can complement each other and help each other on the walk of life. I strongly believe that two bonded together can be more constructive and good than the work one can do alone.

However, it's not one person's job to save another from loneliness.

If you're anything at all like me you were shaped by songs like "Love Story." Songs about relationships that are so crafted in a way as to call out to our deep waters and tell us they'll be filled if we'll only get...

Places of hurt aren't able to be filled by only a love story.

Relationships are wonderful and free places. I'm in a thriving and healthy one and I've seen immense positive growth stem from it. It's a relationship that brings intense joy into my life and cultivates good things in both of us.

Even though my relationship is incredible I still feel lonely sometimes. Just because I'm in a relationship doesn't mean I don't still struggle with doubts about myself and with feeling alone sometimes.

I don't expect my boyfriend to fill every single hole within me. That's not his job. A relationship isn't the end game. Just dating or marrying someone isn't the end game. It's about constant self-improvement. Change, development, growth. It's a process within ourselves.

A relationship would be absolutely stagnant if just by meeting someone every part of you was healed and suddenly made okay. Conversations would sure be repetitive and boring. I used to keep a list of my "ideal man" as I've gotten older though I realize that I wouldn't want to date my "ideal man" he'd be perfect and perfect is really boring and draining after awhile.

So much of the growth and life in my relationship stems from talking about difficult things, challenging each other to be better and genuinely listening to the other about things we're working at. Encouraging each other and praying for each other.

For me, my loneliness wasn't healed when I met my Romeo boyfriend. If anything my insecurities were amplified, I was challenged to face them and go into the core of the issue and sort through my thoughts and feelings.

I will always love T-Swizzle and if "Love Story" comes on, you best believe I'll be belting my heart out. But to say I'll listen to it a bit differenty now is an understatement.